I feel awful

I’m 12 weeks pp and I just don’t have that lovely mum relationship with my baby I hardly do anything with him other than change his nappy and feed him we don’t really go out at all just feel like I’m just completely useless at this and just dread everyday
Just don’t know what to do I don’t feel it’s post partum depression I just feel I made a bad decision having my baby and I know that sounds awful

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I need some serious help

I’ve been tracking and noticed a pattern, every time we see my mum, sleep, our the window, doesn’t matter how asleep he is before I put him down or how well he was sleeping before, if they’re alone for even 2 seconds he just screams the second he is put down and I leave the room, he didn’t do this after it was my mum and my brother in the room and I left for 2 seconds, only if it’s only her. Every single time, nap time is a 3 hour screaming match, I cannot cope, how do I get him back to his system, he has to have it so specific or it ruins night sleep. What the hell has she done to him in the 30 seconds it takes me to step round the door to fill up his water or finally get a wee alone. Doesn’t matter if we’ve seen other people later in the day. Doesn’t do it for anyone else. I don’t wanna hear don’t see her again okay I know if this is how he’s reacting to her it’s not good, please don’t, it’s my mother I’ve already not got a dad. What the hell do I do other than remove her.

I feel like a awful mother

It might be weird but long story short while cleaning by accident a plastic basket ended up on the cooker and start smoking the rooms. (Studio flat so smoke everywhere)
I got rid of the smoke pretty quickly and it wasn’t bad enough to trigger the fire alarm but I have been crying for the past 3 hours because the baby was in the house and I feel awful of how can I make such a stupid mistake. What if anything worse would’ve happened to the baby. What if the smoke affected him in any way. (He s alert,feeding and totally fine so far) but I can’t settle the feeling that I’m a terrible mother and I put him in danger.
My partner is keep trying to reassure me that it was just an accident and could’ve happened to anyone but I just start crying over and over again…

How often are people bathing their babies?

My LO is 3.5months old, we bath her once a week, maybe twice, unless its been really hot and shes been sweating, or she need it from spitting up on herself

Just curious how often others are bathing their babies

Independent sleeping and naps

What’s the best age/months to start sleep training your little one? My baby is 3 months old and has always been a bit of a velcro baby. We do contact naps all the time and also co-sleep at night.

When she was a newborn, she could sleep for long stretches in her cot swaddled, but since she hit around 2 months, she’s become very clingy. I know we’re not creating bad habits this early, but any helpful tips on how to gently encourage independent sleep for naps and night-time would be great.

She loves her Love to Dream sleep sack at night and we also use white noise.

Cows milk at 9 months?

So we just got back from our 9 month checkup and our ped told us we can start cows milk, we don’t need formula anymore because he’s eating food well and he’s a good weight so no need to add more calories from the formula

I don’t feel 100% confident in his answer about cows milk but want to see what everyone else thinks.

After the appointment on our way to breakfast I looked some forums up on Google and they said little sips are fine but moving over to primarily cows milk is not good because of course the nutritional factor and it can cause intestinal bleeding.

Please let me know your thoughts!!

Struggling

I am 22 and my husband 25, we got married 3 months ago and always knew we wanted a family. I always felt I was made to be a mom and always had that dream. We weren’t planning of having a baby that soon, we wanted to wait a couple years. Since we found out we were having a baby we have been through a lot of emotions.
I feel so guilty to say that but a part of me is “sad” and nostalgic of all the moments that I could have had with my husband for the next couple of years, just the two of us. I know I am going to love to be a mom and we are going to love our child so much and won’t think that when he/ she is here. But for now I am just going through a lot of emotions about it especially since it was unexpected.
I trust God timing just really struggling of all the changes coming up.
Hope it makes sense 🤍