Husband online habits

Ill start by saying ive felt like this myself, and honestly its something YOU have to work through. You cant forever guarentee he'll never look at another woman online. Ive had 10 years of therapy & ive grown to the point that as long as my husband isnt talking to these women or cheating on me, i dont care if he looks at women online. He can love you and think hot women are attractive. To expect him to ONLY look at u and only feel the hots for u for the rest of his life is just unrealistic. And setting urself up for failure. U need to work through ur insecurities & not hound him for it. Get to a place of peace or you'll only drag yourself into more misery.

Are we saying like he’s saving reels of half naked women or his fyp/feed is all that?

I feel like this comes down either to a lack of respect for your emotional feelings/request or an obsession with other women to the point of willing to disrespect you. Or a bit of both. He may still be a “great man” but he seems to not be able to not to the one thing that really upset you.

But I also agree with above that sometimes it’s a us thing too. Like I don’t personally mind it just being on his pages, not much control to that, whatever, and I have no insecurity of him doing something with them or trying to.

But I’d also just be pissed off if I asked my husband to repeatedly not do something and he insisted on doing it 😅

It sounds like you need to figure out what you really want. It's rude of him to know your boundary but ignore it. So im not sitting here saying he's a good guy. But how important is it that you feel uncomfortable with him looking? I guess what im trying to get at is either leave him because he doesn't respect you and will continue or seek therapy as to how to be able to move past his looking because sadly it doesn't seem hes going to stop.

I honestly think he has a addiction. He looks at those girls everyday!! Big booty girls. It's so played out. And yeah that's the frustrating part he swears up and down he doesn't watch it but I know he does. It's not important enough for me to divorce but it is important for me to step back some. He's never going to stop. I can see if it was once in awhile that's not the problem it's everyday. Like the first comment said I guess I just need to reevaluate myself at this point.

I think thats a great idea. I definitely agree with what she said. So since you want to stay with him work on yourself. However you see fit. 😊 I hope it works out for you 😊

I dont think it means you need to work on yourself to learn how to accept it, like some others have said. You have said it feels like an addiction, and thats because IT IS. I have a background in counseling and you are 100% correct that looking that often and lying about it IS AN ADDICTION. Youre not the one who needs to change. Masturbation can be normal and healthy, but a man that looks at reels every single day is preoccupied with sex. The fact that he also got upset with you for wearing a swim suit also shows he gives you zero freedom to wear a bathing suit, but then expects unlimited freedom to mentally masturbate to as many woman as he can possibly find. Thats a weak man. Thats an addicted man. Youre not wrong for having normal and valid feelings.

Porn is an addiction. If he’s a keeper, see if he’s willing to do some even telehealth therapy to work on stopping. This will take understanding from you that just because he’s getting help and hasn’t for awhile doesn’t mean he won’t again. You will need to decide where your level of acceptance is and what you’re willing to do before asking him to do anything.