Does your 9yo do anything to contribute to the household?

I'm talking about basic chores, making his bed, putting away dishes, etc.

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I only have a 3 year old but I’ve started trying to get him to help tidy up and put his rubbish in the bins. Someone I know has a 5 year old who does his own dishes, moves the clothes from the washer to dryer and cleans his room (given she didn’t have others over who contributed to the mess)

My nearly 5yo does- he’ll almost always ask to help dust his bedroom, he’ll help me to sort his clean washing to put away etc. occasionally he’ll ask to help sweep or mop. I don’t expect any more from him than to tidy up toys, so he doesn’t have any proper chores as such. He chips in when he feels like it, which is age appropriate really.

My nine year old does these everyday or when needed
Unload/load the dishwasher
Make sure his bathroom/room are cleaned and put the trash out

My 3 year olds pick up their room by themselves, put away their clothes I fold and help do little things like put the snacks at the bottom of the fridge once I get them together lol

My 6.5 & 5 y.o. are expected to do that, they make their bed, clean up their room, and help put dishes away. Dirty clothes is sorted in the proper hamper. It's their responsibility and by age 9 they will have more to do.

We aim to teach them to take pride and care in their home, becauae when they are adults it will be on them

My 3 year old hasn’t grasped tidying up her own toys but will take her dishes to the dishwasher, fill the dishwasher powder and press the buttons to turn it on, clean up any spills, helps load and unload the washing machine and pair up socks, helps sweep, mop, and clean things like the bath with the spinning brush. All with help & supervision of course but she loves being involved and I want her to have these skills by default so she’s not reliant on anyone when she’s older, and also don’t want her to grow up thinking fairies do the cleaning overnight lol

Same as the others, my girl is 4 but she brings her dirty clothes to the laundry basket, hands me dishes, tidied up her toys, makes her bed.

my stepson does nothing, and I mean NOTHING. I can't and won't say anything since it's not really my place, just wanted to make sure I wasn't the only one who would make him contribute

Yes! My 6 year old and my 2.5 year old tidy up after themselves (toys), put bowls/plates in the dishwasher or the sink, put their clothes in the wash basket and any rubbish in the bins. Simple easy things that they are more than capable of doing.

My girls aren’t that old yet. . But they do enjoy doing / helping with their laundry. My six year old will get her and her sisters clothes and start the laundry.
They both make their beds in the mornings after waking up, they clean / tidy their rooms, they help to load the dishwasher, they help to sweep, mop, and vacuum. they pick up their toys after they’re done playing, they wipe their table down after eating, etc etc.
they also have an amazing responsibility chart that has a few more basic things, that they like to do.
They’re six and three years old. We started them very young and no we do not make them / force them.. they enjoy cleaning most times and will ask to do most of these things on their own lol I have to tell people that because they assume I’m running a cinderelly household 😅🤣🫶🏾

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Please help!

So my partner, 4 year old kiddo and I were having a movie. During the movie my partner starts doing math with kiddo and pulls his phone out to record the cuteness. Kifdo brcomes disregulated and starts hitting, punching and head butting me.

My partner asked him to stop once, ai tried to stop hom and when I couldn't I removed hom from my lap firmly, possibly to firmly because he ended up falling over.

It looked like I pushed him but I didn't.

My partner snapped at me that "I know he hit but there was no need to push him". I told him that he actually also punched and head butted me. I told him I didn't push him and I didn't mean to even make it look like I had.

My partner said "enjoy your movie" and walked out of the room.

Our kiddo said his bottom hurt so I opened my arms for a cuddle and he came over and we snuggled and apologised to each other and I was crying.

He then went to see my partner who kept asking if he was ok. He was and is perfectly fine.

I asked him to delete the video via text as he went straight back to his gaming desk and I came into the bedroom, and he hasn't responded.

I am angry at myself for reacring that way to our kiddo, I am frustrated and upset that he hurt me and I am upset that my partner doesn't seem to care.

How can I be a better mum to my kiddo? Or do I just have to walk away?

I hate myself, am miserable and don't even want look at my partner.

Do you think being a SAHM is considered hard work?

I got my hair done at this new salon and this older woman was doing my hair and asks what I do for work. I tell her I’m a stay at home mom and was talking about how stressed I’ve been and she goes, “why are you stressed if you don’t work?” And says “you shouldn’t be stressed if you don’t work. If you go to work and also take care of your child then you can be stressed”

Then I go to the nail salon and my nail girl asks what I do for work and I tell her I’m a stay at home mom. I tell her that my partner is from another country and culture is very 1950s house wife which I’m not common in my culture. And then I tell her it’s really difficult being treated a 1950s house wife & how my partner doesn’t help clean one thing and she goes, “well if you don’t have to go to work then it’s fair”

I just don’t understand why ppl don’t think being a stay at home mom is stressful and
not hard work. & I’m pretty sure the older woman who styled my hair has children so how could she say that. I’m not rich with a supportive husband and family with lots of strong female friends for support. I’m really struggling. 24/7

Baby led weaning food size

My baby is 12mo and I gave him a smash cake. Hes eaten lots of solid foods like scrambled eggs, sausage, ground beef, rice. I always cut it into small pieces and often times just add it to his purees. A couple times i gave him steak and a pickle spear to gnaw on. Ive has no issues before.

So today he took a big piece of his cake and shoved it in his mouth. I figured he'll spit it out if its too much. He started gagging and his face got red. He didnt panic or act upset at all. Cant remember if he made gagging sounds or not. After maybe 20-30sec(?), he threw up the cake and liquid. He still didnt act upset at all, maybe kinda like "wth?' He reached for me to pick him up from his highchair, then he reached down to eat some baby cheerios puffs he saw on the table 😆 and he was happy.

So is it okay that I let that happen? Or should I continue cutting his food up in smaller pieces? Was it correct that I just watched him gag on it until he threw up?

How often does your child see your in laws (advice please)

We recently moved a one minute walk from my husbands parents house. My husband insists our daughter (5mo) goes there every single day. I think that is ridiculous and I think 1 time a week is more than enough. If my mum lived next door we shouldn’t be going every day.
My MIL has upset my numerous times around things relating to my parenting and our daughter so I’m not comfortable with our baby being there without me ever.
How do I explain that daily is far too much and ridiculous. How are we supposed to have a healthy marriage and family unit if the only time we get as a family when he’s off work, he wants us to be at his mums?
We don’t get much time in the evening together either as I go to bed shortly after our daughter does. And he is up at 6 for work every day.

I’m also upset about it because it’s not fair my baby will see my mum once a month (distance) but he wants our baby to see his family daily? They aren’t more important than mine.

Pet hate- is it just my husband?

When I ask him to look after the baby so I can do any chores, he says oh il do it… and he thinks thats being helpful! The chores are the easy job after having the baby all day!
Doing my head in having to remind him all the time, so now I am pulling him up on it, saying why dont you want to be with the baby he gets really offended.

Need to rant

Tomorrow is my bfs first ever Father’s Day, someone in work has asked him to cover him on first call meaning he could get called into work for anything at any time some of these things can take several hours! My bf doesn’t like to say no so he’s said yes!! My problem is the bloke who has asked him has kids of his own so would’ve already had his first Father’s Day and he knows it’s my partners very first, I’m so fucking pissed off at the bloke who’s asked him because it’s his first 1, our boy is 4ms old

Am I overreacting? He told me yesterday and at first I was like “ok” but today it’s really playing in my mind and pissing me right off