6-year-old has a LYING Problem 🤥

Posting on here seeking advice from other moms that have dealt with children that lie. If you have a “perfect” child that has never lied, no offense, but your advice probably won’t help in this situation. I’m honestly troubled by this because as a mother of 4, only 1 of mine lies and lies often. It’ll be over the simplest of things to even lie about! For instance, this morning she woke up before me and she went downstairs, found her tablet and was playing on it. I came downstairs and asked if she had brushed her teeth.. she immediately says “Yes” and follows it up with “But it was a LONG time ago and my teeth probably stink by now”. Suspicious. So I asked her to come up close so I can double check… complete junk mouth to reveal that she indeed never brushed her teeth this morning. She then admitted to lying and I sent her to brush her teeth.

But I’m at my wits in. I’ve attempted talking to her, reasoning, time outs, and corporal punishment (I’ll admit that she’s the main one that ends up getting a whooping for numerous offenses). Has anyone ever dealt with such a defiant and strong-headed child? She’s so loving and usually she listens and dones well. But she is also the one that gets the MOST upset and MOST attitude when she does not get her way or we ask her to do something she didn’t want to do in the moment.

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Are the other kids boys? Just curious. I have 9 and I have 2 like this. Ones a girl and just constantly lying about stupid stuff and ones on the spectrum so he really doesn't lie the same way he actually just makes up stories and stuff but won't really lie when we ask him to do stuff. Just different. However my daughter is a drama queen throws tantrums hard headed and lies over stuff EVEN when we see her do it she'll say no I didn't and it's ridiculous as we literally caught her in the act. So I don't understand why she likes straight up like that but it's almost like she convinced her self she's right like she yells at us were wrong even though we saw it happen!!! Lol 😆

I’d look into Dr Becky’s work - she talks about it why kids lie - it’s honestly usually a sign that they are afraid to tell the truth (so corporal punishment just makes them learn to be a better liar)

My step son did this exactly when he was going through some trouble at school. He was held back in 1st grade due to some reading delays (he was the youngest in his class) and he felt so left behind - it manifested with lies and outbursts. With patience and structure, not just discipline, we got him through it. It wasn't easy, but it got better.
We found taekwondo to be a miraculous outlet for him!

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