Is it normal?

Is it normal for the majority of your friends to just disappear when you're pregnant/had a baby?

During my pregnancy I couldn't drink (obviously) or do much due to really intense HG which landed me in hospital on a drip 4 times during it.
My best friend has 2 kids and she's welcomed me to motherhood with open arms and I'm so grateful for her but she has her own life and 2 babies of her own. I see her every now and then and I speak to her daily but I need more mum friends 🥺😭

Is there any mums around mid 20's-mid 30's in Leeds or West yorkshire?

My little girl is 4 weeks old and I want to meet other mums who'd love to go for coffees, play groups, walks to clear the head ect

I just feel stuck and kind of lonely.

My boyfriend is incredible, but he's gone back to work and he works 12 hours a day, sometimes 6 days a week so seeing him during the day or getting a day together isn't often anymore

Sorry for the rant, just didn't realise growing and raising a tiny human meant I'd lose 90% of my closest friends 🥺

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I've lost most of my friends too! I have a 2 year old and an 11 week old. And i'm 34 so neeeearly mid 30s FML

I lost all but 2 of mine.
No one reaches out apart from 1 of them.
Especially when I suffered daily with my MH & physical health at times.
I have a 5 month old & I'm mid 30s.
Always up for talking etc. but unfortunately I'm not where close. Xx

Yup! I spend the majority of my time on my own with my little girl

I'm 33 and have a little girl born Sept 24 and I'm due with my second Sept 26. I'm in Bradford xx

Unfortunately it happens and it sucks but they do say you'll learn who your actual friends are when you have a baby.
I've made a good couple of friends on here and it's so nice 🙂 message local people and just see where it takes you, even a conversation online can help x

Unfortunately completely normal. Definitely try connect with mums on here but also local baby groups etc are a great place to meet people (although I'd hold off until we get past this heat wave)

Oh this part of being pregnant suckedddddd, I didn’t have many friends as it was so losing what I did have felt horrible 😓 sadly I’m not local though

Yep, mine have done the same. We are the first in our group to have a baby and they were excited at first but now I don't hear from them. It's a shame really, but I have made some good mum friends. What I have found is the men in the group will invite my hubby out but if the girls are doing something they won't invite me cause the think I can't find childcare when I can x

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Please be my friend 🥹

Looking for my number one bestie that I can call or text whenever. Bonus if we can hang out without any judgement while my three toddlers run rampant 🥴
I am a type C momma. My kiddos are 1, 3, and 4.5. I am a bonus mom to the oldest two and my husband is always working.
I enjoy trying new foods, reading, crocheting, binge watching tv, tik tok scrolling, shopping, coffee, alani, and just genuine conversation.
I got a lot going on so I need someone who will lend a listening ear and also let me vent at times. I’m a little dorky and mostly up for anything!
I’m a social drinker.
I do not smoke and would prefer to have someone not smoke around me or my kiddos.
I am the type to always show up for you regardless of what’s going on in my life and will be your number 1 cheerleader! I’m just looking for mine. 💗
I live in Liberty, MO.

Husband wants me out of the house once a day for an hour!

As a SAHM our child is so attached to me, not a big deal.. other than when I leave. Like Monday morning I had a dentist appointment and she had a full on meltdown as I was getting ready, husband said she was like that for 30 mins after I left! That’s crazy to me. I love her but I don’t want her getting upset every time I leave her, especially when her dad is with her!! So I’m starting a gym membership soon and need a gym buddy, anyone need a newbie gym buddy?😅

Do you feel guilty wishing time away?

My kids are playing soccer on the trampoline after gardening, playing in the sprinkler, and having popsicles. They’re having the time of their life, but I just wish it was fall and they were at the point in their life that they can listen to one thing I ask them to do in a day. I know I’ll miss it one day but I’m hot and mentally just not with it

Need friends 😭

Hi yall ! I’ve been in the area for about a year & haven’t made any mama friends or even friends at all 😭I have a 2 month old baby girl 💖

Is it normal?

Was he financially abusive or did I didn’t manage the finances correctly?

I left my job and moved to my bf state thinking I was gonna go work but instead I ended up pregnant. I became a sahm and he gave me $500 every 2 weeks while he took care of the rent. He made $115k a year. We never joint finances.

I put the $500 back into the family like groceries and stuff while leaving my debt unpaid bc I often didn’t have money left so my credit went down. I told him I wanted to find work but he fought me over it and told me I was a bad mom for wanting to leave our kid in daycare.

He was also always telling me how I don’t do anything at home and I just want to be financially maintained, all while he never helped at home or with the baby. He was also controlling and jealous verbally abusive. I tried to communicate how I was feeling but he didn’t want to hear me out. This went on for 4 years until I had enough and I left. He then said ok let’s joint accounts and started giving me $1500 monthly but by then it was too late. I had been unstable in survival mode for too long that I didn’t last long and I left again a couple of months later.

He says that I never asked to be part of the finances so that’s my fault. that he would have let me managed the whole finances if I had asked. that he has been working hard to provide for us, saving to ultimately buy us a home so he has not been abusive and I’m unappreciative and just didn’t manage the money right.

He says he never told me to use the monthly allowance back into the family so that was my fault that I never saved it or put it into my debt. But I felt bad not contributing specially bc I didn’t know where we were financially and bc he made me feel like I don’t do anything at home.

Also one time he cursed me out so bad for no reason and the next day he offered me $8k to pay my debt but I didn’t accept it cuz I was mad. He has given me the tax return which has been $5k every year. Eventually I paid off my debt. But Has this been my fault all along?

He just always kinda made me feel like I wasn’t contributing and always fought me for no reason and he didn’t do anything at home or with the baby so I always felt like we were gonna break up. He never made me feel supported, stable and secured.

Sahm, Did u have to ask ur partner to be part of his finances or did he make u part of it? How did ur partner make u feel secure and stable?

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