Living on one income?

Hi friends,

My baby is 3 months old and I’m having to return back to work. The commute, stress, and child care considerations are too much and it seems best to quit after a month or two of being back.

That being said, I make more money than my husband and I don’t know if we can live on one income.

Do yall live on one income and just budget tightly? Any tips if so? I’m looking at side hustles but nothing will come close to replacing my full salary.

Angry at our system and culture for making it so hard for moms 😢

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We live on one income, 2 boys (20 months & 6 months) my partner works and I’m a SAHM. We have a weekly meal budget of £80 so £320 a month, £40 a month on formula and we get a monthly pack of nappies for each of the boys and then half of what’s left over after bills is put in the savings and the other half is for whatever we want. Aside from two months after my partner needed leg surgery so took a month off work we manage perfectly fine and are financially comfortable.

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We did this but our situation was a bit different- my fiance was making more (though not “a lot”) and I wasn’t in a job I wanted to be in long term. Most of my income was going to go to infant daycare and commuting to my job. I decided to take a year off, finish school, and use some of my savings to supplement my fiance’s income for rent. I do plan on reentering the workforce once I graduate in December. We are in the income level where we aren’t “poor enough” for assistance but still feel “poor”, but we’re making it work for now.

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I had to quit 2 months being back at work, it wasn’t easy in terms of letting go of my career & income but it was easy due to the fact that they were declining every adjustment I needed so we physically both could not be in work, one of us was always having to call off towards the end. We signed up for UC and although it’s not a lot (for us) it definitely helps towards bills! I did try go back to work 5 months later and they too made it incredibly hard to work around childcare & my partner. They too denied working around my childcare but I thought I needed to make a real effort and try. 1 month later I quit because again it just wasn’t working :(

He does have a good paying job, still not enough in this economy though 🥲 we just budget every month and don’t spend too much on “wants”

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We live on one income. I have 2 boys. We budget groceries. Our rent is 1100, groceries are about 300 a month sometimes more. We always take out about 400 every month to put into savings the momebt he gets paid so we know how much to budget. If we ever have any money left over which we usually do then we put it straight into savings. I live in the uk so i get child benefit for the kids (179 a month) and that goes straight into the kids expenses and thier bank. Anytime we need to buy them anything it comes out of that.

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Living on one income?

Hi friends,

My baby is 3 months old and I’m having to return back to work. The commute, stress, and child care considerations are too much and it seems best to quit after a month or two of being back.

That being said, I make more money than my husband and I don’t know if we can live on one income.

Do yall live on one income and just budget tightly? Any tips if so? I’m looking at side hustles but nothing will come close to replacing my full salary.

Angry at our system and culture for making it so hard for moms 😢

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