Anyone else? (Ps. Sorry in advance for the long yap below)

I’ve never had many friends growing up and if I did it was always a singular girlfriend. When I went to university I tried to make friends on campus and that was a strange experience. I studied Interior Architecture and those girls were competitive! It was all about who got the internship from the best firm and you bet if you shared ideas in a study group you’d see it on their project the next week. Not quite the friendship I was envisioning…

A few years later, my circumstances changed, I moved, I met my husband, my community broadened and I found a couple of girlfriends that seemed to be really supportive. Until I had a baby.

I’m 25, and none of our other friends have had children yet which is completely fine! I don’t expect anyone to be at the exact same point of life as us, nor do I expect anyone to only want to talk about my child when we get together. I make an active effort to only talk about Lucy- my 6 month old daughter- if asked specifically and only very briefly during initial greetings. Six months in and my friends are cancelling plans on me- plans I desperately was looking forward to- or just not inviting me at all.

My husbands guy friends have been a lot more welcoming and supportive of us and things haven’t changed with them at all, it’s just the girls.

I’m sure I’m not the only one who values time to just be themselves. Not a mum, not a wife, not a daughter. Just to be a girl with some girlfriends. I also don’t want to feel like I have to tiptoe around topics when my daughter is my whole world at the moment. She’s my priority, my joy, my opportunity to grow as an individual. It just feels like instead of being there for each other no matter what circumstances change in our life, my friends would rather just not join me in this new phase.

Anyway, anyone else experiencing this? And if you are, although girlfriends have always been few and far between for me, I can say that my husband is truly my best friend and I hope that if you’re experiencing a change in support that you at least of someone on your team cheering for you. You deserve it.

If you’re looking for a friend that is happy to be happy for you, support you when you need support and be loyal no matter the timeline please send me a message. I would love to spend time with someone during the week, go on walks, hang out, yap, and just be a girl ☺️

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Friends??

I am in desperate need of human interaction that isn’t 4, 1, and 3 weeks old. I am a very upfront and honest person, some are intimidated by it bc I don’t sugar coat. There’s no such thing as TMI with me, I need all the details, down to what the weather was like that day. Dark humor is my favorite humor. I really enjoy bed rotting, binge watching movies but sometimes I get a wild hair and go outside.

I don’t want to look after my kids anymore…

They’re 2.5 and 3.5 and I’m just done with the running around, playing with them / entertaining them constantly as soon as they wake up to when they sleep.

I feel like I’m just bored of them now. Does anyone else feel the same?

Obviously I love them

Contraception linked to major illnesses

I have just read an article that says there is strong indication that depo injection can cause brain tumours.

It's also believed pill can affect bone density and there are possible links to cancer.

I took the pill for about ten years, maybe a bit less. I stopped in the end as I wasn't seeing my partner a lot due to work etc so I felt like it wasn't worth taking. I haven't been on any contraception now since about 2020 but these stats are making me feel worried. Ten years is a long time and many women will have had the injection or taken the pill for 20+ years!

There are of course risks with any medications but this just feels unfair that millions of women will have been taking these without being fully aware of the risks.

Looking to make some new friends

Hi I am a stay at home mom of a 4 month old live in Clifton, NJ. I do content creation but mostly from home. Im looking to make friends whom I can hangout or talk to if anyone is interested please message me

Not happy with babies nursery

So my baby officially starts nursery on 1st July and is currently doing settling in sessions which is fine. My annoyance comes with the funded hours and awful communications from their office.

So I did all the right things and returned to work on 31st April and stretch my annual leave so that I could get my code ready for the summer term. I then saw on here that you need to check you can still use said code if you do not start at the beginning of the term as some local authorities are awkward. After months of leaving phone messages and emails I never got an answer so asked in person at my babies first settling in session last week.

I was reassured that my code was fine and could be used. Fast forward to this morning and I get my first invoice and lo and behold they have not included any funded hours and want to charge me £800.

This is devastating for us financially and will logically mean I’ll have to pay this for both July and August. (Obvs I will use the tax free childcare account but that still means paying over £600)

I am so annoyed. I asked this question so many times. I may as well have stayed off work the extra month if I had known then would have only had to pay it for August. I’ve maxed out my annual leave so can’t stay off now and will likely have to eat the cost.

I will of course ring them as soon as they open I’m just so annoyed by the lack of communication on this it’s making me not want to send my boy there.

I know no one can help here just needed a rant

Mil buying Father’s Day present

So my mil brought my husband Father’s Day gifts from the kids.

I did find it strange and had a moment to myself thinking why? It’s not really your place. I mean don’t get me wrong it was a personalised top and mug so it was only small.
What are your thoughts? Am I over thinking.