Useless husband

Right, our 9.5 month old had a terrible night. Some of the wakes were 30 minutes apart. My Husband didn't help once. Didn't even wake up to our son crying.

The baby woke at 5:30 and I managed to get him back to sleep and he woke at 6:30 for the day. I'm nudging and tapping my husband to wake up and get him as I just need an extra hour of sleep. He didn't budge and I'm not leaving my son to cry so I go get him. I wake my husband and say it's time to wake up as I've been up all night so not fair for you to sleep in when you've had uninterrupted sleep. He said why didn't I wake him!? Why would I spend 2 minutes waking you when I can go and settle him in 30 seconds.

Anyway, my son's getting bored in the bedroom so my husband says to take him into the living room. I'm standing waiting for him to get up and follow as he's still laying down on his phone. He told me just take him and give me 5 minutes to wake up. Which I followed with I didn't get 5 minutes to wake up to which he replied angrily I DON'T CARE. ok rude. I'm now sat in the living room crying. It's been 30 minutes and he's still in bed.

Not really looking for advice just a tired fed up wife.

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My five year old daughter today at the ford was catching little fish and crayfish and oozing confidence teaching all the other kids there about the wildlife. She noticed a little boy who was about 3 trying to copy her and out of no where she walks over and GIVES him her net and bucket and when I asked her why she said “I think it would be really special to him if he could catch one himself”. He tried to give it back to her after a little while and he wasn’t successful getting a fish and she told him to keep it and asked if she could help him find the best place to find one.

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Tell me your proudest parenting moments.. milestones or moments I want to hear them all ❤️

How do you do it, really.

How do you go through a bad night with a toddler of like 4 or 5 hours sleep and then get up at 5/6am and deal with a whole day of making food, playing, tantrums, crying etc? How.
I mean where is the energy? I just seem to cry whenever I haven’t slept and can’t deal with the day after unless my bf is home to help

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