Feeling unsupported after C-section, even with a partner at home

Has anyone else had a C-section and felt like you’re doing everything on your own, even though your partner lives with you? I’m struggling to recover, take care of the baby, and keep up with everything, but my partner doesn’t really help. Would love to hear if others have been in this situation and how you managed.

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This is what im worried about :(

I didn’t struggle because he wasn’t helping but he wasn’t around due to work.

To help me, he hired a cleaner for us weekly and we still have her almost 2 years later. She would come weekly postpartum and it made my recover a lot easier after the second section. She’d change the beds, vacuum all 3 floors, mop, scrub the bathrooms, blitz the kitchen, start the laundry, sterilise bottles. I was able to relax with baby, pump or nap. It also meant for 2 days after I did no chores whatsoever and could focus on being mum for my toddler and baby.

If he won’t help you, you might need to just say you are getting help elsewhere in the meanwhile because you cannot pour from an empty cup xx

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