Would you leave or keep trying to work it out?
LONG POST - I've been married for 2 years and 8 months (been together for 9.5 years) and we have a 9 month old daughter. We went through a real rough patch around Xmas 2024 (drinking, being emotionally unavailable for 4+ years and it came to a head) and I was about to leave but found out i was pregnant. After loads of talking, we decided to work on things and life was great ... while I was pregnant and the first few weeks of having our daughter. Now he has just got worse over time and I'm debating leaving. Trouble is I don't want to hurt him or our daughter. Here are some of the things he's done in the last 6 or so months:
- regularly home later than he said he will be (sometimes by hours) and is uncontactable in this time
- drinks at least 1 beer a day
- almost all parenting falls to me .
- almost all housework falls to me
- he can ge quite pushy with sex (even though i have PTSD)
- if i tell him to stop shouting, he will whisper and vice versa
- i said no sex without a condom, he said they make him go soft but he led on top of me and kept pushing anyway (wasn't successful)
- always says i have an attitude
- I was up with our daughter for 2hrs in the night so asked if he could do her breakfast so I could get some sleep ... he complained he doesnt get a lie in even though he sleeps through the night. I told him I could see she has wet the bed on the monitor so he needed to get her (wet patch the size of her) but he said he was going to the bathroom first (which usually takes upwards of 20 minutes) so I ended up getting up. In my mind, he was happy to leave her lying in her own urine and what turned out to be poop too.
- ive suggested counselling but he refuses
- if i pull him up on anything, he'll say 'sorry im such a shit dad/husband, I'll just fuck off then' and turn the whole thing into me protecting his feelings, leaving me unheard.
- he didnt get me a 'happy birthday mummy' card or a gift from our daughter but did try to pass a book off after i questioned. His other gift were a pair of shoes which he left on the side for 2 weeks and just gave the unopened amazon package to me
There's definitely more but this is off the top of my head ... I've tried so much to fix things so don't know if this is stuff others would just deal with or if they'd go?
Am I wrong?
I’m 4 months pregnant. We went out to watch the game with his friends and he and I had plan at the end of the night to tell my parents about the pregnancy (don’t question this lol). He knew we had plans about this for the longest time.. he keeps pushing it and it’s so damn annoying. Then he got so drunk that day so I got annoyed. But then he got angry at me because I was annoyed at how he was drinking when he knew we had plans and I’m not going to let my bf talk to my
Parents while he’s drunk. Like no respect whatsoever. Then we got into a huge fight where he called me: “a fucking moron, a fucking bitch, cunt, a walking fucking idiot, and so on” the next day he explained why he understands I got disappointed but then went on about how he feels disappointed.. did not apologize for the way he spoke to me. I was super anxious, as we all know pregnancy is hard, the mood swings and emotions takes the best out of you. He yells and screams on the phone and I should’ve just left him. But I constantly called him because I was angry and wanted to solve things but he was a total prick about everything. Anyways he texted me this morning saying this, isn’t this just fucked up. Or am I wrong?
I will not clean his fucking place that’s for sure. Like wtf. I’m not your maid. You don’t treat me like a partner and you need this. I’m already going to be taking care of the kids so he’s just trying to be a jerk.
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Anyone near me down to be friends? im nr good at making post like this but I'm a mom of 2, and I work most of the time, so it might take me a little while to reply, but I'm usually pretty good about getting back to people.I feel like ever since I started working, the few people I used to talk to have kind of drifted away. Ik life changes and everyone gets busy, so I don't expect people to always be consistent. but lately it has been really lonely. ofc i have my partner, but it’s not the same as having a friend to talk to/talk shit to😂 anyway feel free to hmu! Dont bother if ur gonna be one sided.
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