I keep seeing people online saying that if a baby can mess around while breastfeeding it's time to stop

My baby does this rub across my chest with the front of her hand and the back of her hand and occasionally grabs my bottom lip. She's 3 months old...

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My baby is almost 2 and still nursing 😅

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Wtf? No lol feeling takes time. I glance at the TV or my phone while im eating because eating can get boring. I imagine babies get bored while eating from time to time too!

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My LB is 4.5 months old and he is breast fed and has formula. But when his breastfeeding his always latching and unlatching to have a giggle or babble and unless his fallen asleep his hand is always moving around and feeling or gripping to my chain while his drinking

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Well for 1 if they are messing around with your breast then chances are they are stimulating milk flow but also they can 'mess around' for comfort and to help them regulate their nervous system. As they get older they just turn in to little gymnurstics 😅

People need to learn to educate themselves and stop treating breastfeeding like a weird unnatural thing.

My son is still going at 3 years and will continue to do so till he is ready (even though I am trying to gently nudge him from the idea and help him find other means of comfort etc)

However having him get a job does not sound like a bad idea 🤔🤣

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formula - why did you use formula instead of breastfeeding?

looking to hear from mothers who DIDN'T breastfeed, please.

I should start by clarifying I have 0 judgment for either answer and am actually looking for some reassurance myself lol. I'm having a baby soon and honestly the more I learn about breastfeeding the more I don't want to do it. it just looks so constant and so exhausting and your partner can't help take the load at all unless you add pumping which is a whole other set of difficulties. I'm kind of tired of my body not belonging to me, I've had a hard enough pregnancy, and I'm just so scared of feeling chained to my baby as a food source instead of wanting to be with them and being able to bond. I also feel immensely guilty that I'm starting to feel this way, and like I almost need to go through the suffering of trying to breastfeed and physically not being able to in order to 'earn' the freedom of using formula.

Are there mothers out there who chose to formula feed not because they couldn't breastfeed but just because they didn't want to breastfeed? I feel like not wanting to isn't a good enough reason because 'breast is best' and I know all that but I just don't feel like I can face having to do it so often and at all hours without help. every mitigating idea I've had like formula as a base but with 2-3 breastfeeds a day everyone just says "oh that won't work it'll tank your supply and your baby won't get any breast milk at all." ok, I don't want to do it then! but I feel like an awful mother already...

really not looking for mothers judging each other in the comments please! I would really like to hear people's stories (and be set straight myself if I am being selfish) so please let them share.

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Just need some kind words

I don’t really like putting my business out there but I’m due July 30 and pregnancy has been lonely but now it’s really intense since
birth is creeping up.
My biological parents & siblings live in the Caribbean & I only have extended family
up here. My child’s father and I were together but i recently broke up with him because of things i’ve been putting up with and now i’m just at my breaking point. I want to believe all his words about how he loves me so much but at the same time i’ve caught him following his exes back and the day after our baby shower one of his exes actually video called him. And he wants me to believe that it’s all innocent. He’s also leaving for a trip to the Caribbean next week but swears he’s not gonna miss the birth 🫠. I’d rather feel breakup pain and move past it then continue in a relationship where I feel hurt ever so often. I feel like my soul is crushed and just so heavy right now.
I know it’s gonna okay once it’s over but the loneliness until has kind of been unbearable. If anything can drop some prayers and kind words that would be amazing! 🥺🩷

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Need advice asap

Ok so over the weekend my twins turned 2. My Mother in law was there and for some reason ever since my daughter was born she’s so loud and obnoxious when she talks to her, so with that being said my daughter has never liked her or wanted her to hold her. I have heard my MIL say she has a pug nose before (which she does not) and I told my husband and he never had told his mom to stop. So this time when she was leaving she had the nerve to say by ug pug Referring to her as an ugly pug! I’m pissed and I told my Husband and I know he’s not going to check her. I don’t know what to do any advice?

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Jealous of formula fed babies sleeping for hours

My breastfed baby wakes up every 1-2 hours still. It’s been very hard work and draining. Multiple times I’ve debated moving to formula because the sleep deprivation is brutal. Even harder when your friends babies are sleeping 6-10 hours on formula.

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Does anyone really know they’re done?

Anyone have a burning desire for another and not do it? Does it get better? Do you accept it? Do you regret it? It’s probably not going to happen for me for multiple reasons. My husband is 40 and doesn’t want more, don’t blame him (but I’m only 34). I’m 15 months postpartum and had two 15 months apart. My cycles are regular, but I have a luteal phase defect now, so unless I supplement progesterone, there’s no letting Jesus take the wheel and if it happens it happens. I feel like I’m grieving. I would love to have one more, but I don’t think it’s in the cards for me. How do I accept this?

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Anyone else finding 7/8 month phase IMPOSSIBLE 😔

So, is it just me that was sold the lie that newborns are the hardest??

My boy is nearly 8 months and fk me I find it hard. He is genuinely the best thing in the world but my patience is stretched so thin with the noise! I had no idea the impact it would have on my nervous system. Recently I’ve had thoughts of regretting becoming a mummy and it makes me so sad.

He’s never slept through the night so I know sleep deprivation doesn’t help. In fact the past 2 nights have been waking every hour between 1-5am.

Does it get better????????

Looking for solidarity ❤️‍🩹

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