Friendships

I’ve always been someone who was closer with males then females.
I had this one friend male for as long as I could remember, once I got with my partner 13 years ago now we drifted apart. When my partner and I spilt for a little while he came back into my friend group and we were close again. Once me and my partner got back together he asked me to stop talking to him coz it made him uncomfortable. But I miss this friend a lot but everyone is telling me to stay away from him because he wants more than a friendship and it will destroy my relationship and family… but I miss having that friend I can trust but what if he does want more and I take that risk and lose everything..

in our community

How do I (politely) tell my friend that she can come to my house if she wants to hang out so badly?

My best friend is a SAHM with two older children, and I’m a working mom with an older child and a newborn. I’m on maternity leave right now, and my friend keeps asking me to come hang out but I’m not really sure how to politely explain that I really don’t want to go hang out at her house. I’m trying to enjoy my time at home for as long as I have it, and it’s also just in general a really big hassle to have to pack up my newborn and go sit at someone else’s house for the day. I feel like it’s a little bit unfair that she hasn’t really come to our place at all, when she’s even got live-in child care if she needed it. I don’t want to come off rude or snippy, but doesn’t it make more sense that the person with the newborn shouldn’t have to do all the traveling? For the record, the last time we hung out I did go to her house.

Do you feel as though you should tell your partner…

Everything. Such as what you need, want or what bothers you?

Or is that something they should be astute to in some cases? Like should they care enough to notice certain things?

Is it odd for MIL to buy a father's day gift for my husband?

It was for his first father's day

Why is it so hard to make friends?

I feel like ever since I stopped being a doormat it’s been so difficult for me to make and keep friends. It saves me heartache and energy but it sucks because I genuinely just want one friend.

He tried to make me feel better

But he made it ten times worse. I know he didn’t mean to. I am 6 months post partem from a c section. I have an overhang. I wasn’t happy with my body before and I’m sure as heck not happy with it now. I don’t even want to get on top during sex because of it. Last night after doing the deed (I keep my shirt on now) I was laying with my head on his belly and we were just having pillow talk. He put his arm around me and his hand landed on my belly and I pulled my shirt down and put my hand over his so he couldn’t “rub” my belly. He noticed right away and proceeded to tell me how much he loves me and.. “every fold” “crevice” “crack” “flap” anything I could think bad that I have he loves with every ounce of him. I adore him for trying to give me that reassurance but now all I can think is “wow he notices my c section over hang flap.” It made it ten times worse and idk what to even do atp.

Self care

I love a good Dominican salon. They’re so hospitable. I was offered coffee, corn on the cob, chicharon with bread and beer lol all while relaxing, listening to the grandmas gossip and getting my hair slayed.

& also complimented for looking too young to have a 13 year old. I was just winning all around.