unpopular opinion. what’s your thoughts?

I love my children, 3 under 5. I had my first at 19, seconds at 21 3rd a week after i turned 24. I love my husband etc etc etc. But i mourn the person i was before. i wish i would’ve waited to start a family. I’d been with my now husband since i was 14. im 24 now and it was just right. I have no resentment towards my life, kids or husband! I just didn’t get to live i feel. like traveling, making friends, even college in person. I feel like i just disappeared and I have no other identity except for mom and wife. I’ve tried to “get my spark back.” but it’s just different. Nothing really interests me, i don’t do well in social groups anymore. I can’t find people my age with 3 kids who could relate. Like yes i understand, this is the route I chose but it’s hard. Sahm, no friends still in college, im just struggling mentally but every time I voice it, I basically get “you made your bed so lay in it..” comments :/ I am in therapy, i feel like everyone should be. but i have no one to just vent to on a personal friendship level who gets it.

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Aw, it will be okay! You will have another chance to do you when the kids get older. I had my kids later in life and honestly I kinda wish I had started earlier. Yeah I had a good time being me but now my kids are not going to know their grandparents for very long. Know that there are advantages to both having kids early and later. I'm so looking forward to getting back to my old hobbies as the kids get older. But for now I find my peace knowing my decisions were the right ones for my family. Just as your decisions were the right ones for your family. Your time to shine will come!

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