Husband infidelity

When I was 5 month pregnant with third kid I found out that my husband was cheating on me after being 13 years in marriage. To tell that it shaken me is not enough. All my life just crushed in my head, all what I was working towards is crushed. When I confronted him with this he just told me that it was for fun. When I read their chat - I found out that he was going out with that girl for half a year (so basically from the moment I got pregnant ). Based on chat I can tell that they had sex, boowjobs (in my car, as he was using it to go out) , she send him all sorts of nudes and video where she masturbates, he talked to her during day, he went with her during lunch time to have a lunch.
After so many discussions and fights I have decided to stay with him, as we have 3 kids together and he is indeed a great father and he was very supportive to me in general. That it is why this infidelity was such a shocker for me..
Today I have delivered our baby girl and she is wonderful, he loves her, and looking after her, he was with me in the hospital all the time, and look after the other two kids while I was with baby jaundice in the hospital. So I am trying to move on with my life.
But sometimes all memories are coming back of what he did and I am becoming very sad and depressed.
One of the most devastating parts for me today is that how that women looks - she is very skinny girl , when me I am not. This has shaken my confidence too much, and now I always thinking that I am not good enough, that I need to loose weight and work on myself even more than I did before.
I do not understand how to move on, I do not want to explain this to him, I do not want to know that I feel so uncomfortable, I do not want him to know that, so he will not start think about that girl again! Or should I talk to him? What should I do?

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Congratulations on your baby ☺️

You’ve just grown and birthed another baby. Your body is fabulous! Be kind to yourself.

What he did is unforgivable in my opinion, to betray the person who you have chosen to be with when they are at such a vulnerable stage in life is vicious.

If you have chosen to stay with him, you need to be honest about how you feel. This was his doing, not yours. His actions, have consequences. It shouldn’t be something you should have to try and get over, he needs to help and support you to build that trust back up. You are full of hormones and you know the ride you’re in for with this being baby 3 over the next few weeks. He needs to fully support you and be there for you. But the only way he can help, is if he know how you feel.

Congratulations on your baby Mama! I'm so sorry your going through this. I just don't feel like that's a way to live. You're only hurting yourself suppressing all your feelings. I say talk to him so he can know how you feel. Your entitled to have feelings and express them. If you don't talk to him talk to someone about it . Please don't keep these feelings inside and hold back . If you ever want to talk and just need someone to listen I'm here .😌 Stay strong and Ill keep you in my prayers . You got this ! 💞

Congratulations 💗 please try your best to soak this time up with your baby even though this is going on in the background . I do think you need to be realistic with how this is going to affect you in the future and postpartum . Will you always remember it and have that resentment . Personally I couldn’t forgive but I am not judging your situation at all as I know he probably has his good sides and you have many years and children with him . Make sure you have family supporting you and if you can confide in a friend or professional and plan what is the best outcome for you and your family . Do what’s best for your mental health and free your mind 🤍 all the best

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