One day

One day my husband came to me and said he doesn't like that I'm constantly asking for help with the kids on days he was originally supposed to work but ended up staying home.
He would always ask what would I do if he wasnt home and eventually asked me to treat it like a normal day as if he weren't here.
I went through a series of emotions naturally but I obliged.
Today just so happen to be one of those days. Once I'm up i like to jump into my morning routine before the boys wake up but he begged me to get back in bed with him.
Not the way he wanted apparently.
Honestly I think he may have wanted to get spicy and because we didn't I think thats where's the animosity was coming from.
I think I'm more so annoyed that I do what he asks and hes still upset.
I try to treat it like a normal day but now he wants me to stay in bed and "cuddle"
I stay in bed anyway and he starts an argument.
I'm tired 😫

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Get rid of him instead of Coming on here to us we can't help u x

Did you ask him where the animosity is coming from? If it is animosity? Did you discuss with him the inconsistencies in what’s he’s asking (normal day when it comes to kids vs wanting you to change your morning routine bc he’s …horny. If that is indeed what he was expecting when he said to cuddle and stay in bed) ?

So he's annoyed you asked for help yet annoyed when you don't ...basically lol is the guy ever happy? If you were to just lay around then that's not acting like a typical day for you either . . . Just cause he's home from work he still is a parent and should pitch in , I'd be annoyed too!

My heart goes out to you. He's forgetting something: you could have stayed in bed, but who will take care of your children and the house? He forgets that being a stay-at-home mother is just as tiring as... to wake up and go to work. You have to make him understand that. I understand if he's at home and wants to stay in bed with his wife, but he also needs to know what you want. Talk Speak to him calmly in your room and tell him everything that offends you about his words and actions. I sincerely hope you find a solution.

Ew so he doesn’t want to be a dad?

It sounds like you’re doing exactly what he asked by treating it like a normal day when he’s unexpectedly home, so I can understand why you’re frustrated. If what he actually wanted was quality time together that morning, he needed to communicate that instead of expecting you to read his mind. I’d have a calm conversation later and ask what his expectations actually are, because at the moment it sounds like you’re getting mixed messages. If this is a pattern where the “rules” keep changing and you end up feeling like you’re wrong either way, that’s something that really needs addressing. No one should be left feeling like they can never get it right x

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Can we just "make time"?

Here's our situation. I'm on maternity leave, with a baby, and a toddler (who goes to nursery part time). I'm managing to work out 4-5 times a week, from 6 to 7am (often baby wakes up sometime in that window so I'll put him down with some toys for a little while).
My partner works lots of weekends in preparation for a month-long trip he'll do by himself. In addition to this, sometimes he comes home late in the evening because he's also doing an online training course which he does at his office after work.
This morning he told me that I should do a training course too. I said "When?!".
And he said that "It's all about willpower" and "It's just like my workout, I didn't have the time so I made up that time". Which I find irritating...but does he have a point?
Has anyone been able to finish online training while on mat leave?
Or is that ridiculous because he's literally away all the time?!
(I'm not looking for validation by the way, it struck me as ridiculous but happy to be proven wrong!)

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am i crazy or???

Mind you, 41 days Postpartum.
My birthday is end of july. My husband wants to take me out for an overnight at a casino 30 minutes from home.
that’s not my issue.
my issue is that he asked his mom to watch our baby while we go and this was the 1st i heard of even a bday trip AND her potentially baby sitting.
(setting the scene)
1. we live with my mom and her husband.
2. i’ve only met his mom 4 times.
3. we never talked about who will watch her.
he thinks i’m upset because he asked his mom.
his mom is the 2nd issue, my 1st issue is that we didn’t talk about where MY baby will go during this overnight….
like am i crazyyyyy or ???

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