What y’all think.. Is he ungrateful or Am I not understanding ??
Ladies have yall had to deal with things from your significant other that you had no part of. Well let me tell yall what I’ve been going through.
When my dude gets very upset he start breaking shit. I’ve told him numerous of times that he needs to see someone about his anger issues cause it’s really a damn problem then after the shit broken he wants to have an attitude that the shit broken, like it’s my fault. Mine yall he has broken 6 phones and all being very expensive (3 Samsung notes and 3 iPhones), 2 65 in. TVs, a brand new computer desk and the gaming desk. This all since we’ve been together and out of everything this year he recently broke two iphones both his, the gaming chair and table ( which I brought for his bday last year $1200), & tv (Samsung $800)… then my dumb ass turned around and bought it again after he broke it along with steering wheel ($300). He brought his own tv. So mine yall I didn’t buy him another phone since he wanna keep breaking shit. So he been without a phone for a few months and we talked whenever he was around WiFi from our daughter play phone. He was mad about him not being able to contact me and everybody have iPads and tablets and him not having one. So me being me, I ordered him a nice Samsung A9 tablet but he was so ungrateful because Amazon sent the wrong case and wanted what he wanted. Then tried to break it cause the case he wanted was on back order. Then got pissed cause he still don’t have a phone. I’m like well I shouldn’t have gotten the tablet if you gone be like this. Went to metro to see if we can find a new phone cause the places that fixed phones said that his phone can be fix but he gone always have issues with it and it best to get a new one. While there got him a tablet case and no phone due to the one he wanted wasn’t in stock waiting on shipment to come. Went home to see if I can order him one thru Tmobile on my account he didn’t want that. Eventually he found what he wanted at Verizon but still had an attitude cause he had to wait til Monday that just left and it was ordered last week Thursday. He tells me I’m idc if he has things and blah blah blah I’m so over this. Am I not being understanding and accommodating or his being very selfish and ungrateful? I told him moving forward I won’t be doing shit else he’s worse than the children breaking shit then getting mad. I won’t be replacing anything else cause everything I buy he continuously destroys with no remorse so fuck going out my way to please and do for him. I replace more shit with him than the kids. I still have gotten my son a new complete setup but did his twice. Nope not no more. I’m focusing on rebuilding for my kids and fuck trying to make sure he’s good.
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I don’t even have to get thru the whole post to know, you’re in the right if you leave, deprioritize him and force him to be accountable for his own actions. I’m experienced in DV since my childhood and also having my own anger issues where I broke inanimate objects. This is an issue for him to face, for me my anger revealed tender vulnerable sadness, grief. Emotions that need empathy & compassion, but anger and becoming violent resists & rejects the love the angry/sad person needs to feel. This behavior of breaking things could likely lead to escalation to real ab*se. And him blaming you, is a sign of his incapacity to take accountability for his actions. I’d say there’s deep insecurity, shame, maybe even grief in there as I can relate to the issues it sounds like he has. Which is also why I know it’s his responsibility and if he’s not willing to seek therapy, go to online support groups etc then he’s a lost cause until he wants to heal. I suggest “sharewell” a online support groups
You are one step away from the thing being smashed up - is your face.
What he’s doing is classed as physical abuse. You are in an abusive relationship. Fuck buying him anything, I would be moving heaven and earth to get myself and my kids away from him!
He's an absolute manchild, I'm sorry to say. He doesn't seem to be concerned about being a good example for your kids at all. Honey, if you don't need him, leave him. It sounds like you have your own money. A man like that doesn't deserve you and your children will see dad being a nightmare and think that's ok or have their own reactions to his violent and somewhat abusive behavior. He doesn't deserve a damned thing. Leave him. I'm sorry to say. I know it's easier said than done but you need an actual man.
Are we talking about your child or your partner? Because what? Why are you even buying him these things in the first place when he breaks them LIKE A CHILD
It sounds like, You’re just a bank for him in his eyes, and he’s VERY immature, selfish and ungrateful. Why should it be your problem to “care if he has things” when he breaks the things he has repeatedly. Doesn’t take accountability or having any interest in working on his anger issues which are violent and will just get worse when enabled.
What a shitty attempt at manipulation, please don’t let it continue to work.
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