What do you do when you don’t have the fight in ya anymore?

I homeschool my children. They are 6 years, 5 years, and 4 months old. After fighting them all day to do the things they need to I just don’t have any fight left in me and feel defeated at the end of the day.

By fight I mean all day I have had to get on them about doing something and literally everything is met with “aww man” “I don’t want to” “ why do I have to do everything?” (Meaning the few chores I have them do) And so on. They always do what is asked but at a certain point I just don’t have it in me to correct them or listen to them complain. Please tell me I am not the only one that feels this way.

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I homeschool my kiddos. They're almost 13 and 6 1/2. When they get like this they lose access to whatever it is they'd rather be doing. It's crazy but it works. What's even crazier, is the more I follow through and take things/privileges away the less complaining I get from them. It's like they know I'm not messing around. We've actually had two of the most productive school weeks EVER because right before I started lessons back up after their summer break ( the first 3 weeks of June) I explained to both of them this new school year wasn't going to be the same as the last 4. Why? 1) I'm pregnant 2) I don't have the energy to fight them on basic crap 3) I will just take away whatever it is they'd rather be doing. And I guess I'm scary mommy because they've been the best little monsters ever.

I homeschool my three, 8,6&5 and im 21 weeks pregnant. We do all year schooling, so we can take breaks whenever. My kiddos have it down now. It takes a while. They know they cant go outside and play until after homework is done. We do a punch card system as well, so everytime they do their schoolwork without complaining, they get a punch.

Feel free to message me if you want some support. It's very hard in the beginning-- especially if they're used to fighting and getting their way. But once you consistently follow through, they realize pretty darn quick fighting WILL NOT get them what they want.

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Am I in the wrong?

We only let my parents watch our 1 year old. Today, while my husband was at work, I went to my mom's house and took a shower while my parents took my baby to the grocery shop. For the last few weeks, I've been struggling with my mental health, and my hygiene hasn't been great because of that. My husband kicked off and said that I'm disrespecting our relationship and boundaries and that he'll be staying in a hotel until I leave the apartment.

We've had issues like this before, but im tired of him not understanding that I just need a minute sometimes

Am I being inconsiderate?

Feeling sad

Hi everyone, just wondered if I’m being sensitive here.

I absolutely love my 10 week old and every minute spent with him, I absolutely love motherhood and even the crying and screaming doesn’t stress me. For that reason I do 24/7 baby care and the times my partner has him - I want him back!

My partner has started getting angry at me when he gets home from work if I’ve not done his dinner, or done the recycling or other household chores. Tonight for example, I’d messaged him saying I’ve got a freezer meal out for him - when he got back he said he wasn’t hungry. Fine. Then proceeds to get angry because his dinner wasn’t on the table…confused. Apparently all I’ve done today was hug the baby and go to a cafe (true…but I also walked the dog, emptied the dishwasher, did washing, sterilised 10 bottles and fed and changed our baby 20 times!). He thinks I’m just lazing around the house. He says I should just let the baby cry while I do the chores. No.

He’s got angry at me several times now and I’m struggling to get dinner ready and do everything else with the baby. He said “our mums did it why can’t you”. Both our mums were stay at home parents so I guess he’s right.

How do you do it?! I just can’t seem to get everything done, I’m failing massively. I go back to work in June next year so have some time to work it out. I feel under such pressure to be a perfect housewife for my maternity leave, but I do think he’s being a bit unfair saying I do nothing. He wants me to do everything around the house so any tips welcome on how the hell I do that with a 10 week old and a massive dog.

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One day my husband came to me and said he doesn't like that I'm constantly asking for help with the kids on days he was originally supposed to work but ended up staying home.
He would always ask what would I do if he wasnt home and eventually asked me to treat it like a normal day as if he weren't here.
I went through a series of emotions naturally but I obliged.
Today just so happen to be one of those days. Once I'm up i like to jump into my morning routine before the boys wake up but he begged me to get back in bed with him.
Not the way he wanted apparently.
Honestly I think he may have wanted to get spicy and because we didn't I think thats where's the animosity was coming from.
I think I'm more so annoyed that I do what he asks and hes still upset.
I try to treat it like a normal day but now he wants me to stay in bed and "cuddle"
I stay in bed anyway and he starts an argument.
I'm tired 😫

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Letting my grandmother move in with us was the worst decision ever. My husband works nights and is supposed to take our daughter when he wakes up in the morning so I can have a break for a couple hours but now every time he wakes up she finds something she needs him to do so I'm left taking care of a screaming child 24/7 all alone cause by the time he finishes what she needs it's time for him to go to work. I never get a break and it's making it impossible for me to enjoy being a mom cause I'm basically being a single parent while still being married. I'm exhausted and tired of being all alone

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Evening park trip with the kids and partner (4 kids 10 and under). The 3 year old is non verbal and a fear of dogs. My partner is about 10ft away in the van dorectly facing where we are and watching. A dog off a lead runs full speed towards us she is hysterical before the dog gets close. My son starts screaming i grab them all behind me at the sane time im pushing this dog away who keepc comimg back. At one point i had to swing my daughter by her arm quickly away to stop the dog touching her as he went for her. The man who owns the dog just slowky walked over n slowly got his dog, didnt seem to care and said absolutely nothing and then I look at my partner n say what the actual fuck? Why are you just sitting there? He said what do you want me to do. Both children who were crying and screaming are autistic too and one non verbal and no understanding. My non verbal child already struggles in social situations and jumpy this is now going to make her even more scared to be outside. The man could also see his dog running towards us a mile off n did nothing to try call his dog back or stop it.