Still waking for nighttime feeds

My 13 month old son still wakes 2 to 4 times every night. He won’t go to sleep unless I feed him. I’ve tried switching him to a milk bottle to fill him up before bed or to try to feed that to him instead in the middle of the night, but he refuses to drink regular cow milk. We tried to soothe him. I was hoping to start weaning him and stop breast-feeding, but he still wakes so much at night. My husband and I are so exhausted. Please give us advice!

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Partner getting angry over baby not settling

My baby is 12 weeks old and has always been a good sleeper, we’ve never really had many issues with her sleep. But this morning she has been so fussy and crying all morning from 3am till now (7am) but she’s finally settled. I’m 99% sure she has trapped wind or just has a sore tummy from not pooping for about 24hrs now. ANYWAYS. At about 4:30am my partner woke up and tried to settle her, obviously it didn’t work, he then had the nerve to shout at the baby telling her to “sort herself out”. I had to try my hardest not to snap but I told him to not dare talk to her like that as it’s not her fault she’s upset, my girl loves her sleep and I know that’s what she’d rather be doing than screaming her head off. The extra annoying part is I have never woken him up for help through the night when she’s fussy, I’m always in another room with her until I know she’s definitely settled, he always tells me before he goes to bed “wake me up if you need me” but I never do, and now I guess I know why.

It’s just annoyed me how I deal with her whenever she’s upset 24/7, he’s at work 6am-4/5pm all week and even weekends some days, not to mention the sports he does 3 days a week and the times his friends ask him to go out. The times he does see her she’s happy. He hasn’t had her 1:1 since she was about 6 weeks old if not earlier than that. Everytime I offer him to feed her a bottle of expressed milk he has an excuse, whenever I try to get him to even just spend time with her he has an excuse. But because he doesn’t spend enough time with her he doesn’t recognise her different cues for what she needs and then he gets frustrated when he can’t settle her. It’s a vicious cycle.

But the short of the rant is, I’m so angry that he had the nerve to shout at the baby for crying when he’d only been awake 30 minutes and she was clearly in some kind of pain. Instead of trying to be her comfort person and her safe space he decided no, I’ll shout at her, which in turn scared her and upset her more.

I’ve never been so angry. How would anyone else approach this situation?

Anyone else feel the same?

My baby is 3 weeks old today and the love I have for her is crazy but my goodness this is the hardest thing I’ve ever done. Does anyone else’s baby constantly wriggle and squirm, cry for no reason but then have days where they barely cry at all so you find yourself thinking is it reflux, is it this is it that!? But if it was, she’d be like it all the time! Constantly thinking well something must be wrong because most babies ‘have something’. Wondering if their formula is right for them even though there’s no reason to suggest it isn’t. I feel like the Internet is bombarding me with things at the minute around ‘does your baby do this’ then buy this!! But like, isn’t she just being a newborn!?

What I’m trying to say is does anyone else just feel this immense pressure and constant anxiety of ‘are they okay’!! I can never seem to relax

17 months is HARD

can someone please tell I’m not alone in feeling like the 17 month old mark is so hard or am I just going crazy.
On lack of sleep still aswell as he isn’t sleeping through, everyday is a challenge and sometimes I find myself losing my patience by early evening because the constant tantrums, nothings ever right, one second somethings fun the literal next second it’s the worst idea ever and he screams over nothing.
He can’t tell me with words what it is he wants so this makes him frustrated and rightly so. But I’m just finding this whole age range so so difficult and challenging

Contact naps

My 7 month old contact naps. I love a contact nap and would quite happily do them until she decides otherwise however, I am going back to work when she is 11 months. I’ve tried putting her down occasionally but every time has ended with tears.
Do I just carry on contact napping until I go back to work and then just randomly stop, slowly wean off contact napping (how to go about this and when it a good time to start?) or just persevere with putting her down every nap until she gets used to it?

Attaching to boob

Hi mamas,

My son was born 12 days ago, and we’ve been having trouble with breastfeeding from the start because he hasn’t been able to latch properly.

Two days ago, we had his tongue tie snipped, hoping that would solve the problem. Straight afterwards, he latched really well and fed for about 30 minutes, which gave me so much hope. But since we’ve been home, he hasn’t latched once.

I know he can do it now, but whenever I try to breastfeed, he cries, arches his back, or pushes his head away. It’s becoming really upsetting, and I just want to be able to feed my baby without relying on a bottle.

I will be going to breastfeeding support groups and I also have a few names for some specialists so I will have to get some professional help involved.

Has anyone else experienced this after a tongue tie release? If so, did anything help? I’d really appreciate any advice or reassurance. ❤️

Do you find being a mother so hard on the daily

Mine are 7 months and 3.5. Pre shchooler is my biggest stress I’ve never known anything like it. She’s relentless and it’s like being bullied 😂 7 months is a stage 5 clinger and cries when I do anything except holding her. Anyway I spend most my days in high levels of stress so much I can feel it in my chest. Partners like don’t understand why your so stressed!