Inconsiderate

My child’s father likes to play basketball cool w.e idc about him going to play I just hate that he doesn’t fucking consider anyone but himself

He got off of work at 12 and he’s played till 600 told me nothing and when he finally responded it’s “im sorry” and the amount of times he’s said this abt the same situation 🙄 I’m fucking over it

in our community

Unexpected cost I can't get out of

Sibling is getting married in Japan.

I have 2 kids. For me and my partner flights have already cost about £3000.

By time I add on hotels that another £1500.

I haven't even factored in spending money and food out there.

I'm pregnant and will be in maternity leave during this period.
So this is just going to make finances even tighter.

What would you do?

If your toddler (3 years old) pulled down an entire dresser & everything ontop of it what’s your reaction?

their fathers dresser, not even their own.

Accidentally Found Shady Stuff abt Hubby

Me and my husband share a Google account mainly for the maps. I wanted to look back to see what Thai massage place we used to go to but instead found he searched for a “massage parlor” and went to a sketchy place that has had arrests for prostitution when we were together in 2020. He has visited some other questionable places upon seeing the list of all massage places visited on his Google and before we started dating there were quite a bit of “happy ending” massages in Amsterdam, Paris, Canada, where it is technically legal but the 2-3 I’ve found he went to since we’ve been together are in states where it is illegal. He even looked up red light district multiple times and “how to say condom in Dutch” after searching for red light when he was in Amsterdam before we started dating. This seems like a pattern and something that doesn’t just stop but instead got more savvy about it in my mind.

I am a sahm with no bank account currently so I feel I need to get my ducks in a row and save up some before bringing it up because this could possibly blow up our marriage.

Has anyone been through this? Any advice?

Nursery - am i wrong?

So me and my husband have 2 girls - 2 year old and a newborn. We have both decided that we wont send the kids to nursery.

My eldest is non verbal and we are waiting to speak with professionals about potential autism.

We don't want to send them as we dont trust anyone to watch them bar family. I am so so paranoid and genuinely have nightmares of my kids being abused.
I lose sleep at the thought of my daughter being upset or lonely & not being supported. Intrusive fucking thoughts.

His family have a LOT to say and have even said that we are neglecting them by keeping them at home? My husband has said he also wants to homeschool when they are older.

Me & my hubby work opposite days so childcare is always sorted.

Am I wrong for not wanting to send them? Has anyone else not done nursery & homeschooled?

All I've ever heard are bad experiences & the news kind of confirms this for me.

Anybody’s parents not comfortable coming over to your house because they don’t like your spouse?

My husband and I had a big disagreement a couple months before the baby was born. I vented to my mom about it and she was upset with him understandably.
Fast forward the baby is born and my mother wasn’t able to come over because she was sick at the time and didn’t fully recover until my baby was two months. When she finally came over to help me while I slept, she told me that my husband would come out of his office whenever the baby started to cry and rudely told her not to turn on the tv when she asked to play a show for her. She felt that he didn’t want her to be there. But when I spoke to my husband, he was very apologetic and explained that it wasn’t like that.
I told my mom that it was a misunderstanding and next time I’ll be awake when she comes over but she said she’s not coming over anymore and if I need help to go over to her house.

Has anybody been in a similar situation? If so how did things start to work out?

Having a hard time introducing solids

Hi mums,

i'm having a hard time introducing solids to my 6 and a half month old. I exclusively breastfeed, no bottles involved and have been trying for a few weeks to give him solids.

So far he likes fruit, especially banana, peach, melon etc but not a huge fan of savoury things. He just about ate pureed carrot and potato with breastmilk.

is this normal? what have you done to encourage solids? and how did you introduce solids?