TW I am certain my partner is a narcissist and so is his mother but is him smashing things up abuse?

TW: He has broken 2 wardrobes, a mirror, a lamp, a chest of drawers, 2 bed frames, 2 kitchen cupboard doors, a large draw (the front of the draw where you pull it to open it) and that's just in this property. He rips up cards from me and puts them in the bin, absolutely everything is my fault and I mean everything, he looks at other women and it's my fault for noticing, I call him out on his behaviour and it's fault, all he ever says is i am trying to argue or cause an issue, he tells me I'm answering back and I always have an answer, doesn't like me going out anywhere without him but he can go where he wants when he wants.

This weekend he has shouted at me in the street to hurry up , yesterday a woman looked at me and asked if I was okay then he had a go at me for that saying thanks to me people will now think he is abusive. Today a man started walking towards me when my partner was screaming at me but I said it was okay but he took the number plate so now I'm on edge not knowing what he is going to do. We live in a small village area so it's likely I will bump into these people again.

This is abuse right? Or not?

If this is abuse then is this because he is a narcissist or is this separate to that?

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Overwhelmed....so many questions....

I feeling overwhelmed at the moment, I have a lot of questions, I know I should go to my health visitor but I don't because of an incident earlier in the month, I am a bit annoyed at her, I know she can't help it but a phone call asking how it's going and a bit of advice. At the start of the month my daughter got gas really bad, to the point I had to go to the doctor's, they did nothing, so I called my health visitor, she was busy but the lady on other end tried to help and said she should call back the next day, I waited all week on the understanding she's busy but that was like the end week if June and still she hasn't called, I sorted the problem out myself. But now I got more questions and I don't have any trust in her, so what would everyone else do with what I am asking....
Can I take a month old baby away for about a week in the UK, for context my husband sometimes has to work away for his job, it's usually no more than a couple nights away, he was on the understanding that they know he's got a newborn and were trying to keep him local but he has three jobs in Scotland, from Wednesday to Friday, then the next Monday to Wednesday a job in Newcastle, his plan is for me to come up Thursday till the next Wednesday, I have family in Scotland and are in the right area to see them and he doesn't want to leave me alone for that length of time, he could go to Scotland and come back at the weekend but whats the point when Newcastle is on Monday and the job starts early, I don't know what to do, I would travel by train, I am ok with this but is it safe because she hasn't had any injections, she would only see a few family members and I am planning to stay in the air b n b for most of it, I don't know what to do, what would everyone else do....

Travelling abroad without baby's father

Im a FTM and planning on going to Italy for 5 days in August with my 5month old baby to surprise my sister. My partner has got no leave left so cannot join us, however he is more than happy for us to go without him. Ive googled to see what is required if I travel without him and it says I will need a letter of consent. We are not married but live together and he is obviously ok with us travelling.

Has anyone else done this and can give advice? Does this letter have to formal/notorised or is an informal written letter sufficient? Is it even checked/required? Very new to this so just looking for advice!

My bd and I have been trying to work things out…

He has been coming over mainly because he’s got no where to stay and he’s not allowed here because we fight and will both get physical but 2 nights ago he got real crazy on me again and I could see his schizophrenia psychosis episode start and I’m remembering why I left and how absolutely crazy he makes me. He’s the scariest person when mad,

can’t remember why he was mad but he literally walked in my house angry when we were just supposed to have a good night and watch movies and cuddle and sleep.

The pic below just really shows how he makes sure to only hurt me a enough so it doesn’t show, he told me like 4 times to shut the fuck up before I get knocked out when I just wanted to fucking go back to bed.

He ended up leaving and coming back like 4 times then finally stopped and basically said he’s sorry and just wanted to go to bed…👀 we ended up going to sleep but my nerves were so shot I’m still shaky trying to remember even what happened fully.

He not at a mental health clinic getting help, yesterday he had another experience where god talked to him (we believe in god but this isn’t god when he explains what the voices are telling him) luckily his mom was the person who he called to tell her the “good” new and she immediately came and got him.

My eczema has came back because of the stress he puts me under, I love him but I should have to live my life constantly being yelled at or being called an idiot or slow daily because I don’t understand certain things I am asd. He’s a programmer so I don’t understand most things in his world anyways but I’m constantly belittled or whenever I try and share my own interests it’s shut down or he doesn’t even listen to me and goes “huh sorry I thinking about something” and it kinda kills the vibes.

Third baby struggles

Anyone else had their third baby in June? How are you finding it?

I’m finding the baby easy. Breastfeeding is easy even with a tongue tie yet to be cut. I’m ok about being woken up all night. Nothing is a bother this time and I wish I could just devote all my time to him and do it all for longer.

However the juggling of three - wow. My older two have been generally great but some changes in behaviour.

My husband takes the older two out which helps. One of my older children wants me for everything though which is tough.

I am dreading paternity leave ending. I don’t know how I’m going to do it 😩

Any words of wisdom?