Travelling abroad without baby's father

Im a FTM and planning on going to Italy for 5 days in August with my 5month old baby to surprise my sister. My partner has got no leave left so cannot join us, however he is more than happy for us to go without him. Ive googled to see what is required if I travel without him and it says I will need a letter of consent. We are not married but live together and he is obviously ok with us travelling.

Has anyone else done this and can give advice? Does this letter have to formal/notorised or is an informal written letter sufficient? Is it even checked/required? Very new to this so just looking for advice!

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I travelled with my son a little while ago without dad and wasn't asked for any of this, however I did bring with me a copy of his birth certificate if needed as he has a different surname to me, but no one asked to see it.

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I did that the first time (I travel alone with my daughter multiple times a year)and nobody asked for one. I just always travel with a birth certificate. I always get asked when re entering the UK.

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Same as above for me I brought her birth certificate and a letter from dad as she has his surname but wasn’t asked to show anything but I have seen a few posts of people have been asked to show both birth certificate and letter so best just to take both with you.

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You have to ask babys fathers permission to take them on holiday?

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I travelled with my baby last week and didn't even contemplate this would be an issue. I took nothing other than our two passports but had no issues!

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I always travelled with a copy of the birth certificate and a quick letter from her dad.

I was stopped twice to present it including once flying back into the UK by BA.

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I went to Albania a couple of weeks ago, I brought the birth certificate but no one asked for it or anything else apart from the passports!

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Take a copy of the birth certificate and a letter from your partner stating he’s happy for the travel

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I travelled to and from Spain with our son and I had a signed letter but wasn't asked for it at any point. I mean how could they prove he even wrote it? 🤣

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Travelling abroad without baby's father

Im a FTM and planning on going to Italy for 5 days in August with my 5month old baby to surprise my sister. My partner has got no leave left so cannot join us, however he is more than happy for us to go without him. Ive googled to see what is required if I travel without him and it says I will need a letter of consent. We are not married but live together and he is obviously ok with us travelling.

Has anyone else done this and can give advice? Does this letter have to formal/notorised or is an informal written letter sufficient? Is it even checked/required? Very new to this so just looking for advice!

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