Childcare entitlement
I am aware this is a very lucky position to be in, so please don’t think I’m complaining, just trying to navigate!!
My husband is starting a job at some point in the next couple of months tbc where his salary will be just over 100,000. We are hoping to up his pension contributions slightly so that we are entitled to the 30 hours, as otherwise my salary becomes completely redundant/we will be paying more in childcare than I earn. He is starting this job after having to leave his previous role which ended in March.
How will our eligibility be assessed when a) he has been unemployed for the past 3/4 months
b) he is going to adjust his salary but obviously hasn’t yet
Is it done per tax year, calendar year, is there anyone I can talk to, like a helpline etc?
I am a teacher, so my daughter needs childcare from Sept 2026.
Grateful for any help xxxx
I don’t feel seen 🫠
Hey! I don’t know what I’m wanting to get out of posting this but I just maybe don’t want to feel like the only one! I’ve been on mat leave since December, baby born in January. At the beginning my husband was so good with me and the baby etc. as time as gone on I just feel like all he sees is how much he is supporting us and 100% he is, he goes to work everyday and works long hours etc. he is supporting us financially and couldn’t ask for more in that aspect as I’m really not greedy.
But I feel like now - I do everything. Cooking (90%), cleaning, washing clothes, keeping up with the house maintenance jobs etc. and I sort everything for the baby, don’t get me wrong he does bits and bobs for the baby but I’d say compared to me it’s 80/20. I just don’t feel like he cares or sees how much I do. For example we’ve just come back from being away and I’ve done anything, washed all clothes and sorted everything so it’s back to normal and he’s sat there on his phone the whole time. I asked him to nip to the shop and he said “well I bought this and that and drove us to holiday and back” I just feel like he thinks he’s so hard done by but I don’t ever get a chance to just sit and chill. Right now the baby is napping and I’ve chose to sit in the garden even though there’s chores to do; just to have some time! Sorry this is really long but does anyone relate? Xx
Who should get up on weekends
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Together they have a 6 week old, a 2 year old and a 3.5 year old. He also has a nonverbal child, 14 years old who's with us on weekends.
He works, she's on maternity leave with no pay.
She gets up Monday to Friday to get toddlers dressed, fed and off to daycare while he gets ready for work then he drops them to daycare on the way there.
While he's at work, she does the laundry, any shopping, catches up on sleep & looks after baby.
She collects them from daycare in the afternoon and is alone with them all for a few hours until he gets home.
When he gets home, one of them starts dinner, sometimes him, sometimes her.
After dinner she cleans up while he puts the kids to bed (and bath if it's bath night).
This is also when the baby needs most feeding, so sometimes not all the cleaning gets done by the time the kids are in bed. Sometimes he helps finish the cleaning. Sometimes he smokes instead.
On weekends when his son is with us, he sleeps in until the afternoon. The toddlers wake sometimes as early as 6am, but usually 7am. Whoever gets up just feeds them breakfast and sticks on some TV to occupy them until the other is up. All the cleaning was done the night before so it's literally just supervision parenting.
The baby is breastfed and sleeps from 8pm until 10am only waking for feeding through the night.
Oh, and he hates mornings.
