Tired

Struggling in my marriage right now and it feels very lonely. Come on here and everyone seems to just post about being happily married and having the best partner (not saying mine is bad.. I love him dearly.. just rough right now..) and I just want to know I’m not the only one. I know the baby phase is sometimes the hardest time for a couple..

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You’re not alone. I love my husband. But I am also feeling … rough. I don’t know the words.

Same here girl!! You are DEFINITELY not alone. My partner and I regularly remind each other that our favorite thing about us is we’re always stronger when we get through the trials together. We’re still not even married.. our baby is now 6 months.. there are definitely arguments and endless times of tension. But at the end of the day we both want each other until the day we die. Social media definitely has the effect of “everyone is happy or perfect except us.” That is FAR from the truth. Strong bonds are made through the tough times. You guys got this. Don’t give up🤍

❤️ the baby phase is hard! We felt like roommates for a bit there, but it will get better! I know I’m scared to go through the baby phase again in a few months. But I also know we will get through it again. I’m here if you ever need to vent.

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Everything is such an exchange in my relationship. I’m gonna skip a bunch of shit. He thinks that if he makes an effort to take OUR son off my hands for a moment then I should have sex/be intimate whenever he feels like it. I’m with our toddler day in day out I don’t get a break, he comes with me to ALL my appointments … to the gym, everywhere. He NEVER has him because it’s my job to raise his son 🥴

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So he tried to guilt trip me into giving him a handjob and I said no. Then we argued about who does what and when and I was just like no. I cannot do this shit with a 40 year old man. I’m on the lounge now because wtf is wrong with him.

He keeps threatening to break up with me because I don’t give him intimacy whenever he wants which is crazy cause fuck you.

No wonder I hate men.

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