Am I a terrible person?
I've been reading through some archived messages on fb from groups ive been in in the past, some going back a decade or so.
A lot of them include arguments, ones where I'm called homophobic (I'm bisexual and use the same jokes that many in the community do), ones where I'm called racist (i grew up in an extremely racist family to the poont i used to hold my breath around people who weren't whote and british. I have since changed completely and now fight my family over their views) ones where I'm told I'm argumentative, ones where I'm called a spoiled brat, ones where I'm called a liar.
I've started to notice that people just hate me in general for who I am.
Am I truly just a terrible person?
As a side note, I was diagnosed autistic at 25 years old. They didn't need to speak to anyone else because it was obvious from just me that I was autistic.
I've also had mental health issues all my life from bullying and terrible genetics which potentially contributes to me being a dick.
I do try and be a nice person but sometimes I do one thing wrong and people go off on me or I'll copy what others do and people will go off on me but not the person that did it first 🙃
Help!!
My LO is 4 weeks old and won't stop feeding. We had a rough start to breastfeeding due to some complications with birth and then she was jaundice and wouldn't latch, so she started being cup fed in hospital, then syringe fed and then moved to a bottle. I started pumping whilst in hospital at around 3 days PP but she was having to have formula as well as I wasn't producing enough. She was found to have a tongue tie which was snipped nearly 2 weeks ago. Since then, shes been latching great, we've managed to slowly reduce the amount of bottles in the day, and I'm desperately trying not to give any more bottles of formula. The last 5 days or so, she will not let me put her down at all, she is constantly showing hunger cues, so I latch her. During the day she normally sucks for 5-10 mins before falling asleep, but then as soon as I put her down, she'll be wanting to feed again. If I don't put her down and continue to hold her, she'd probably stay settled. I continue this all day, until the evening, where she will latch forever, last night she had been latched for over 2 hours in the space of 3 hours, and still will come away unsettled. I end up giving her a bottle every evening still because I cannot continue, and genuinely think we would carry on like that all night if I didn't. I know this is likely cluster feeding but it feels excessive. I am worried that I am still not producing enough for her, and thats why she won't settle, because she is genuinely still hungry. When I pump, I only get between 0.5 oz- 1.5 oz. combined. I am latching her between 10-18 times a day at the min, and she will feed anywhere between 5-55 mins, so am struggling to find the time to pump in between, especially seeing as she won't let me put her down. I know everyone says giving a bottle is the worst thing you can do for supply, but I also don't think I'd get a second of sleep if I didn't give it! My partner works away from home so am struggling to get anything done at all. Sorry for a huge rant, but any advice would be appreciated, or just to know I'm not alone in this 😅😅
Frustrated with comments on your breastfeeding?
Not trying to rant or be negative I promise! 😅
I can’t be the only one whose friends and family comment on their breastfeeding journey.
Of course, I get the “Good job, mama!” comments, and I really appreciate those. But I’ll admit, I’m always caught off guard by the negative or questioning ones.
“Is she getting enough?”
“You have to feed her a lot!”
“Are you sure she’s not just giving up?”
For context, my baby is happy, healthy, and gaining weight really well. Yet people still seem to question whether I’m making enough milk for her. Why is that?
I’m trying not to let these comments get to me, but they honestly feel a little inappropriate. Like… how dare you?! 😂 I would never question another mom about whether she’s making enough milk for her baby.
Has anyone else dealt with this? How do you respond without letting it get under your skin?
