Why do we force this so much?

I’m a big believer that a lot of childcare advice is just corporate society getting women back into work. Get them sleeping in their own room at six months, nursery makes them sociable, they need to learn to be independent, blah blah blah.

Am back at work now and my little girl hates nursery. She hates it. She screams when I leave, doesn’t eat, refuses milk, doesn’t nap, and leaps into my arms when I pick her up sobbing.

And what’s everyone’s response? “She’ll be fine.”

No! She’s not “fine”. I’m not “fine”. None of this is “fine”!

Why are we pretending it’s normal for strangers on minimum wage to raise our kids? Why do we criticise working mothers for not working enough and also not being enough of a Mum?

Oh you haven’t potty trained them yet? Oh they’re still in a pushchair?

She’s not even one?! Why would she be walking and going toilet??? Is she supposed to be working too like a good little cog?

WTAF are we doing here?

in our community

pissed at partner

we have a one month almost 2 month old now and honestly, I am super pissed and I hate my partner. He sleeps at night and doesn't help at all with her and even during the day he hasn't the most helpful either me doing all the cleaning of the bottles and the pump parts and dealing with both of our kids right now I'm just trying to get her to go to sleep and he's laying in bed snoring i want to yell at him to get out he's just making me really mad and I hate being around him. I just have my six week check. All he wants to do is have sex and I don't want anything to do with that. i've tried talking to him but he's just not understanding.

Am I a bad citizen and a terrible example?
So today we went out for a walk & my son needed to pee, bt there was no toilet in site. I told him to just pee on a tree, so we hid & he did! Was I wrong? What would u have done?

I’m also overthinking cuz I’m asking myself would I have told my daughter if I girl child to pee outside?

Slowly losing my marriage

For context my husband and I have been together total for 9 years married for almost 2 & we have a 15 month old. He’s made me to be a sahm which I’m 10000% very grateful for. With that being said we are bumping heads constantly lately & not seeing eye to eye. I’m upset because I don’t get help with some housework I can ask him for one thing & it’s the end of the world & I’m asking for too much or I’m nagging or even help with the child. I’ll ask nicely atleast twice before I express anger about no help then that’s when he wants to finally get up & help. There’s mentions of I take him away from his hobbies (friends, gaming, basketball) when that is literally not true. For example he wanted to play basketball yesterday but he complained it was too hot but then once were heated in an argument he claims I never let him go play. I’ve never once kept him from enjoying his hobbies so idk why he feels attacked in that aspect. He constantly wonders why I don’t like intimacy or being touched when he tries I tell him “I’m tapped out by the end of the day with our kid being clingy & on my hip ALL day” to which he states “love from your husband is supposed to be different” which he’s right I give him that but I just don’t want to be touched I need a breath of fresh air, a moment where I’m not being touched. There’s been conversations about how each of us doesn’t feel appreciated enough. Has anyone else experienced this? Do I just apologize for being a bitch? Do I just swallow the fact that I’m doing everything alone? I mean in all seriousness I didn’t sign up to be a single married mother but that’s what it feels like.

Am I being difficult?

My 3yo goes to my in laws house once a week. I back a bag with his snacks, toys, clothes and PJs. They pick him up early morning, spends all day there the comes back bathed and ready for bed. My MIL keeps his clothes and I keep reminding them to return it. Once I ran out of vests and underwear because they were all there. I buy good quality clothes, vests and underwear. Before I could buy extra because I was working but now I'm on maternity leave. I just want his clothes back.

Potty training horror

My son pulls my finger when he has to poop right... but he leads me in the kitchen or he will walk right past the bathroom into the living room. AND then when I try to take him poo to the bathroom he kicks, cries and screams. Hes 3. What should I do?

1 year old food preferences

Hi all! I am trying to get my kiddo to be interested in food as much as he use to be. I feel like now that he is past the 1 year mark, he has become more picky. I tried to introduce him to everything when he started solids— zucchini, sweet potatoes, turkey, chicken, beef, orzo, rice, different seasonings, carrots, yogurt, eggs, avocado, different fruit, nut butter, butternut squash, etc. Obviously he had things he preferred more than others but now I feel like the stuff he used to eat, he is not interested in any more. It makes it so hard because I cook him everything from scratch, try to limit salt and buy all organic ingredients. That being said, it’s super disheartening when I spend tons of time meal prepping for him, and all this money on organic ingredients (when everything is SO EXPENSIVE) just to end up having him spit it all out or chuck it on the floor. I honestly don’t know what to try. Open to suggestions— trying to keep it healthy. Also, what do you do when you make something and they don’t want it? Do you just make a whole different meal to make sure they eat something? This morning for example I made potato fritters (which he’s had and liked before) but he spit it out and chucked the rest on the floor. I ended up making bread with almond butter for him just so he would eat something. But I don’t want to always resort to that. What do you do if your kid doesn’t want what you made them?