Would this annoy you?

I’ll just add - when he does stuff, for example started clapping my nan stated ‘he’s doing that because he keeps seeing me do that’ and I know she’s excited and probably wants to feel involved and stuff. I literally spend every waking hour with my baby and do these things everyday yet everyone seems to think it’s due to their little impact of a few hours every few weeks😅
I just feel nasty for feeling this way and wanted to vent privately, sorry for the long post xx

I think you're perfectly valid to feel how you do, I was disheartened when my daughter seemed to be saying everything but "mama"! But I also think it's not that deep, you know your son best and if you believe he's saying banana rather than Nana then hold onto that, he'll he saying Mama soon enough and you'll most likely forget all this anyway 🫶🏻 if it's any consolation, my mum makes bare minimum effort, if that, and my daughter says Nana quite a lot 🫠😅

It would annoy me too, especially as a lot of my family are very low effort but think they're the best. Next time he says it around them just say "oh would you like a banana? He's saying banana, listen! That's his favourite. So clever." 🙂🤣

My baby (now 3) said Nana before she said Mama. It was actually so precious cos her Nana (my mum) passed away when she was only 8 weeks old.
I get that this bothers you. You're not being selfish. You're being a protective mum. And that is allowed! Sending blessings your way, friend 🤗

If this was me I’d literally say “yes, banana!” Just to make a point. Or “ohhh he wants a banana”.

I get it. On their end it’s exciting and harmless but on your end you know it’s not what your baby is saying and it feels disheartening.

I get irritated when I understand what my son is saying but others don’t but I also try to remind myself because I am with him 24/7 that I understand him whereas others do not have that bond and closeness and understanding and that’s ok!

I think just let them have their moment. You know yours and your babies bond and you know what your baby is saying so just hold that to your heart and don’t worry about the rest 🤍🫶🏽

I also think your feelings stem from how family members impact the lives of our children from a parental point of view. When your grandma and your mom hold the baby it’s like the baby is a toy to play with it, to cuddle with, to show off etc., but when mama is with the baby it’s constantly about meeting baby’s needs, make sure baby is well rested, cared for, and loved in a manner of nurturing.

I notice that when family members don’t change their perspective on how they see the baby it becomes annoying and in many ways inconsiderate of you as a mother and somewhat for the baby.

We want for our own mothers to be very understanding and considerate of us new mother instead of just cooing with the baby.

Like don’t come over our house just to hold and coo with baby. Ask mama how is postpartum going, what dishes can I help you with? Do you want me to bath the baby? Do you need me to feed them? How about giving you a meal mama?