Would you leave your 3.5 year old in the bath alone? And just go sit on the couch in the living room with your phone

I have been cooped up all day with my son because of air quality warnings and it’s been a lot grumpy day day and my husband gets home from work and also seems grumpy so he goes to the bathroom for like half an hour and then comes out a d I’m like hey can you start [our son’s] bath? I am just waiting for something to be done in the oven then I can take over. So he starts it and then a couple minutes later he comes out and sits on the couch and goes on his phone and PULLS A BLANKET over himself I’m like ??? I’m not done in the kitchen yet and he’s like ya he’s fine I’m like … what are you talking about he needs supervision. He’s like why (I mentally checked out here because obviously I’ll just have to do it myself) snd was like uh cause he could get hurt and my husband said and what would me being in there do … so I just stopped responding to him and went and did my sons bath. Am I being even remotely unreasonable? No he couldn’t see the bath, no he wasn’t just grabbing a towel or something from the other room, just lazy

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advice? long post warning!

i don’t know where to start with this or even what i’m hoping to achieve from writing this post, i suppose i need a bit of a rant and to know i’m not completely alone and crazy. i’m 35 weeks tomorrow and have been absolutely freaking out about having two children as a stay at home mum.
My partner works a hybrid job, 3 days in the office and 2 days remote at home but for the last two months he’s been remote working due to a chronic illness he suffers from. he is truly the most supportive and hands on dad, i couldn’t ask for better for my babies, even when he comes home from the office he’s on it with our toddler sorting bath and bedtime as soon as he walks through the door. He does so much for us both, even while he’s been remotely working he’s constantly making sure he’s helping where he can and i’ve completely gotten comfortable and used to having him around to help.
This pregnancy has been beyond hard, i’ve had so many problems with it and have been so ill the whole way through, but he’s been there and even come home early when i was too ill to look after our toddler properly.
I love our toddler to pieces he’s the light of my life but he’s nearly two (he’ll be 2 in august around same time baby’s due) and my god is he hard work! he has such a wonderful side to him but he’s also going through the terrible twos and is very impatient and i struggle when im on my own with him to keep my patience (which im hoping is just a pregnancy thing because i used to be able to deal with the unnecessary crying and screaming fine) but my partner is a very patient man and will step in if need be allowing me to take a moment.
my partner goes back to work after paternity leave but he only gets 2 weeks off (plus he’s saved 2 weeks of holiday) so a month total. this seems absolutely ridiculous and tbh terrifies me as im going to be home alone with a newborn and a toddler - with very little access to the outside world due to a lack of public transport, a lack of friends and a lack of money, so really my only options for getting out of the house is a walk or the park which is great for all of 10 minutes until my toddler decides he’s bored.
i have no idea how to navigate life with 2 children essentially on my own three times a week and i feel so stupid because i know there are mums doing exactly this on their own 24/7.
How do i cope with very little sleep and an eager toddler? (i’m also hoping to breastfeed which means my partner can’t help overnight with feeds etc) our first baby was such a good sleeper and even when he had bad nights i was able to sleep when he slept but i can’t do that this time when im home alone.
Nursery one day a week could be an option, but it’s one i’m very reluctant on due to my own personal anxieties surrounding it, that i don’t really want to get into a debate about.
i know i could probably do it, but i have people (my partners family) telling me nursery is the best option and they keep reiterating that it’s going to be really hard on me and they don’t know if i can do it on my own, which i think is making me second guess myself.
i suffered from postnatal depression and ocd with my first as-well which im terrified will happen again and im scared that means i wont be able to be a good mum for that first period of time.
i also feel really bad for my partner as this is our last baby and he is going to miss out on so many firsts and milestones like he did with our son and i know that it’s eating him up that he won’t be there for them and that he can’t be here to support us more.
I feel so lost, im scared i can’t do it without my partner and im scared to loose myself completely to motherhood. can anyone relate? has anyone been in similar situations and gotten through it?

Potty training is easy who people who say it isn’t actually just cba with accidents or the effort

There have been reports that show the number of children starting school still in nappies has risen dramatically in recent years…

DISCLAIMER: obviously if your child is showing some signs or awareness!!!!

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Am I a bad mum?

Am I a bad mum ? I have a 7 month old and since he was bout 4 months old - he will go to my MIL (his grandma) for 2 days every week so I can get a break , catch up on housework and just be a 25 year old with my husband again. My mother says that I’m a bad mum because I do this but my son loves being at his grandmas (dads side) he comes back happy and healthy and she dosent mind. Infact my MIL constantly asks for him. But sometimes I feel I’m a bad mum because I’m “fobbing” off my child.
But I love my boy and he will be going less since he is getting older and want to start doing more outside activities with him.
Pls any advice or words

Curious what the moms think: continuing to put adult jokes in kids movies/shows?

This may be a controversial topic so please be respectful in the comments.
I saw this tiktok talking about a paw patrol episode wherre 2 kids are sitting on cement that's still drying. They stand up and they leave butt prints, but the boy has wet cement fall off as he stands up and it lands in a weird position, making it look like a penis and balls in the cement. The guy was upset about it and I definitely understand his perspective. Someone had to go out of their way to animate that frame by frame. Was it an innocent joke or a weirdo? (Ill add the pic in the comments along with one from bluey as well I saw)
But adult humor in kids shows and movies is absolutely nothing new. Almost all of the 90s and 00' cartoons had adult humor. And we grew to love these movies through a whole new lens because we were finally old enough to understand the jokes and references.
So i don't know, what do you think?

Advice - Mother In Law

Every week my child comes home from
Their grandparents with nappy rash, a bump, new bruise, loose stools and when confronting my other half about it he says they are doing us a favour and will not say anything from the one time I asked why my child was throwing up from being fed stuff they shouldn’t at a very young age. This has caused a huge row and lots of things said and I don’t know what to do? Worrying that he doesn’t want his own child to not have all these things happen to them and I only want the best for my child 😢

Dinner ideas in the heat

What is everyone feeding their toddlers during this heatwave for dinner?

My LO is 20 months and won’t touch dinner when it’s this hot.

All ideas welcome