Paying back childcare costs ? 😪
Husband has limited company and didnt do great last year, turns out his salary was 9000, ive been claiming 30 hours childcare, my salary is 40k but his salary would make us not eligible i believe, I expected him to earn more though dont know if that makes a difference.. does anybody know about this, im panicking im going to have to pay nursery fees back!!
Thanks xx
Overreacting or not
So was my 37th birthday yday. Spent a lovely day with my son, my husband had to work as he’s off two days next week for our son bday, when he got home we got take away, his suggestion and I couldn’t think what to have so just agreed, and then done the evening as normal, cleaned up, putting baby to bed but he was fighting it so my husband took him for a drive left me to some me time for an hour, then came home I said thank you, he THEN went to game, like he does 6/7 nights ( usually he starts when I start bedtime) I said are you gaming and he was like if ya don’t mind? I went well no guess not but you could see I was little upset I though being my bday it wouldn’t be on his mind and he’s come to bed with me, watch a film, have a cuddle but I went bed alone, like I do most nights and I just thought to myself is this it, take away and help putting baby to sleep, is that how special my bday gets 🤷🏻♀️ dunnno if I’m just a bitch 🤣 and this is just adult normal life
vent about fiancé
I just need to vent for a minute, and maybe see if anyone else has been through this.
Has anyone ever been with someone who is a good provider and financially responsible, but just… isn’t emotionally gentle?
I don’t mean perfect. I know everyone gets stressed and tired. I just mean someone who is impatient, rough around the edges, or doesn’t really know how to comfort you when you’re hurting.
Ever since having my baby, I’ve realized how much I crave kindness and softness in a partner. I don’t want gifts or grand gestures.. I just want to feel emotionally safe, like I can relax instead of constantly worrying about saying the wrong thing or making someone mad.
The hard part is that we just had a baby together. I don’t want my daughter to grow up with separated parents, but I also wonder if it’s realistic to hope someone will become more patient and gentle when I’ve been asking for over a year.
Has anyone been in a relationship like this? Did your partner actually change? If so, what helped? Or did you eventually realize they just weren’t capable of giving you what you needed?
Please be kind. I just feel really lost right now and would love to hear from people who’ve been through something similar. ❤️