Potty training is easy who people who say it isn’t actually just cba with accidents or the effort

There have been reports that show the number of children starting school still in nappies has risen dramatically in recent years…

DISCLAIMER: obviously if your child is showing some signs or awareness!!!!

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Considering the UK statistics showed potty training was done by 18 to 22 months old back in 1990s and early 2000s and now irs common for up to 5 year old children not being properly potty trained, i can definately agree its a drastic change

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Can you just fuck off with this judgey assuming and rage baity wording please.

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Where I live the classrooms are integrated, there is no longer a special education class room. Teachers are going to see more kids in diapers. Diapers are a disability aid.

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This is probably the thing I’ve struggled with most and I couldn’t imagine how much harder it is when the child has additional needs. Mines just stubborn and until she wants to she won’t do it I actually think she’s traumatised from me trying to pressure it 🫣 which sounds ridiculous but she cries even when I go to the toilet now 😣

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When I was kid & I’m talking school aged kid; I had a lot of acccidents & so did some of the other kids at school. And none of us had disabilities, it just happened sometimes. lol Wish we had diapers bt we had to endure the humiliation. Good for the parents who send their kids to school in diapers cuz they know their kids strengths & weakness

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Guys I feel it’s obvious this is not about children with additional needs. There’s a big issue in the UK with parents not potty training school age children, obviously if your child doesn’t have the ability to be potty trained, this ain’t about you.

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Personally I don’t see it a “big issue” maybe a “shift” because times are changing bt I don’t see it as an issue if kids are sent to school in diapers. Like I said some of us still had accidents and we had no disabilities whatsoever. I wish I had diapers. And if this is an “issue” then judging parents isn’t the way to go.

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It took us well over 12 months to toilet train our son and it's only when I looked at myself that I found the reason why. We both take the same medication for epilepsy. The medication itself is designed to slow down the electrical activity in our brain. I rush to the toilet now because of it and I also had accidents when I was young.

From the outside you would just see a child who is refusing to use the toilets at preschool. Or lazy parenting who can't be bothered to teach their child. On the inside, it's actually his brain who can't catch up with his body's needs. Add lack of support from care provides, who actually locked my son out of the toilet and shouted at him for trying to go by himself (he was two at this age) He's now very anxious of any toilet he uses and it takes a good while for me to get him settled enough to use it. That being said he is now mostly accident free and dry at night.

My son doesn't have additional needs as such, he just needs reminding to use the toilet.

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The issue is disposable nappies are too easy and then there was the marketing about waiting till they are ready which is medically incorrect. ERIC have said that potty training at the latest should be started between 18-24 months.

Parents have to deal with a lot of noise when it comes to parenting and it can be very difficult to see other options.

I got loads of abuse on this app because I was “forcing” my toddler before he was ready. Actually he just sat on the potty at changing time from 6 months, we didn’t always do it but did when we remembered. It became a habit, he started using it and then before we knew it nappies weren’t wet anymore. Still took another month before I risked taking him out of nappies completely but we did and all whilst we were working full time and he was at nursery.

Nursery were really supportive at putting him on the potty and offering it. It’s totally doable but it is a big thing to start.

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I’d be more interested in the breakdown of reception children who arnt potty trained and seperate the kids with known Sen. For some kids Sen doesn’t even get picked up until they start school. There needs to be more support. There was non when I was trying to train my asd son. I was very lucky with my pre verbal daughter that she just got it although showed no signs of readiness. I’m sure there are cases where parents cba but that child still needs support.

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Op in my opinion teachers are literally like parents because they spend quite a lot of time with our kids. That’s why that job is very under appreciated. So yes, some kids will come to school with diapers & yes teachers should be able to help them with wiping etc. kids vomit, pee & shit, soiltheir clothes etc. so they should absolutely have school staff helping them if they need help. I remember my teachers even helping me out with my period especially since I was like one of the only girls who had it in my grade who was getting period cuz I got mine very early & I have heavy periods. I just don’t think there is a lot of resources in schools. Maybe we need more teachers? Bt of course parents can try to do their best to ensure their kids can learn cuz it is our responsibility bt not all kids are going to be as “capable” as others. And the professionals who work with them should be trained to handle all of kids cuz children aren’t a ONE size fits all.

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Even as full blown adults, some of us aren’t going to be as “capable” as others when it comes to certain things. Because we all learn differently

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Teachers have enough on their hands and should not have the added responsibility of having to change a nappy. I personally also wouldn’t like any teacher changing my kids nappy with all the weirdos that happen to be able to get into schools these days.

I don’t really have an opinion on it being easy for the parent or not and yes every kid is different but there are occasions and I have known of parents that literally cannot be fucked to potty train because they are just pure lazy. (They shouldn’t actually be allowed to be a parent tbf) but that is a small minority I think.

My daughter is 2 and fully potty trained but she was 110% ready and got it within 2 days. My son (10 months) might be the same but might be super hard 🙈.

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I absolutely refuse to believe there is a significant portion of the parent population that want their children in nappies and to continue with the expense of buying nappies.
Saying "it's all because parents are lazy" is in itself, ironically, lazy, and goes hand in hand with the rhetoric that we're all poorer and have less job security than the previous generation because we are "lazy".
Early years support has been slashed to its bare bones, parents are receiving less one-to-one support than they ever have done. The internet is not a replacement for this.
More people are parenting in isolation than ever before.
Corporal style parenting where you parent by fear is now more commonly understood to be detrimental.
The effects of children born in the strict COVID lockdown and delay in socializing with peers has not yet been fully understood.
Calling potty training "easy" and implying everyone else is too stupid might make you feel superior but doesn't contribute anything to the understanding of the situation.

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I think some children are just harder to potty train. Even without disabilities, every kid is so different.

That being said once kids are in actual school, the teacher cannot and should not be expected to help potty train. In a special education situation it can be different but a general education teacher will not be able to touch this with a ten foot pole.

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My baby has said dada for a while and babbles.
Recently has started saying ‘nana’ and I believe when he says ‘nana’ he’s saying ‘banana’ as we call it ‘na na’ for short and he says it every time I’m feeding him, giving him banana or if he sees a banana.

My mum and my nan have both taken this and said ‘oh he’s saying nana for me’
I feel quite hurt as they keep saying that he’s saying it for them, and he’s never even said mama yet.

I know they mean well and they’re excited, they don’t want to come across that way but we literally see them every 4-6 weeks. Sometimes more sometimes less. I just feel like it’s rude of them to assume he’s saying this for either of them when they see him so little but I’m with the baby every hour of every day?

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There have been reports that show the number of children starting school still in nappies has risen dramatically in recent years…

DISCLAIMER: obviously if your child is showing some signs or awareness!!!!

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