Feeling increasingly lonely in pregnancy

Hi all ,
Im 24 weeks pregnant and recently have felt increasingly isolated . Everyone is messaging my partner about the baby or how I am but no one is actually messaging me seeing how I’m doing .
I have no family due to growing up in care , I’ve never really minded not having my own family but I think this pregnancy is making me realise how many women lean on their mums/family at this time .

My partner does not seem to understand. I also feel like I’m the one pushing for things to get done such as organising babies things and decluttering the house.They won’t do something unless I nag which is making me feel worse as they then say their trying but to me it’s not good enough :(
Is this normal or has anyone else been in similar situation?

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Hey! I’m 21weeks and I can definitely relate to the loneliness being very real!! My husband has a great social life and sometimes I find myself getting jealous to the point I cry for hours, I’ve recently self referred myself to therapy purely for a reason to leave the house and have some form of socialising activity! You are not alone 🫂😅

I feel you!
I have family back home but they’re obviously not here with me in the UK.
I do sometimes feel a sense of loneliness here as well.
I did find a lot of support from my colleagues at work.
Opening up to work colleagues who are mums or expecting has given me a lot of support.
I have mental health issues as well and found the perinatal psychiatry team super helpful. I wonder if you can ask your midwife to be referred. They have walking groups and activities as well as therapy for expecting mums.
I hope you find the support you need!

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Sorry I didn’t text back 🫣

Anyone else feel guilty for having unread messages for over a week? Life with a baby is busy. We need friends and family that understand this and not judge us for not replying….

I also think we need a spa trip😂

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Anyone else finding this time really lonely? Ive signed up for a few local classes but all the mums either know each other and stick together /not really open for other friendships or pop in and out of class quickly going there just for the sake of the class vs social aspect. Im alone with my baby all the time and im finding it really isolating. I hoped to make some mum friends but that's not been the case for me

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Hi. So I been talking to this guy for 1 month. Something is off about him and i see the red flags but i need some reassurance. Here are something’s that happened or said.

1) I wasn’t rushing into sex, well he did. He egged me on and kept saying people have sex that’s what they do. He made a big deal because I wasn’t ready for sex. Well we tried doing it and it didn’t work out. We tried about 10 years ago and had the same result. He couldn’t get it up.

2) he told me his baby momma had a hickey on her and told him she’s seeing someone. It totally hurt his feelings.

3) I went over the other day and he said Xanax doesn’t do nothing for him. He’s into hallucination shrooms or whatever within that category. He ate them like they was nothing. My brother died from an OD in January.

But I’m still curious about how he couldn’t get it up, I know Xanax is way worse but he kept saying how embarrassing that is he couldn’t do it. I’ve never in my life experienced that before. So I was understanding why I was there. Well when I leave he will tell me well I was thinking about you and send me a picture of how hard it got.

He did tell me he watches a lot of corn. So I’m not sure what happened to him but this has only ever happened with this particular guy.

Which sucks because I truly feel a physical connection with him that I’ll probably never have. M

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Hey!
I’m Alexus, and i’m a 21 year old first time single mom to the sweetest little girl. I’m in Oklahoma, but im fine with long distance friends too. just hoping to find new besties ☺️

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