My thoughts are just all over the place since having my first child. I just overthink everything like how come no one is making an effort to meet up with me - did I do something wrong? How am I going to be able to afford a house and a car.

I love being a mum and waited for it but I feel panicked about not having things together yet which I didn't have everything before baby although we are financially stable. However, maybe because we were going to get a mortgage and we've had to put things on hold is why I feel like this and wanting to try and buy a car before baby but I also felt like due to my age (late 30s) I didn't want to chance waiting any longer. Also, I just feel different. I hate my stomach as it goes down and then bloats for days and weeks and I see other mums with their flat stomachs postpartum like wth and I just feel different. Not like myself. I don't know who I am outside of being a mum. I return to work in 2 months so maybe being able to use my brain in a different way and be with other adults will help as I feel lonely. Partner has his own issues but when he's on form he is great. Also I just started my period and feeling crappy so maybe that's why I'm feeling like this. Maybe I need to eat icecream and drink wine and go lie down whilst father and son are having their time ey lol

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Big penis

Women who have had sex with a man with a big penis(like 8+ inches) what was your experience? Ive only been with my husband and hes pretty average (6.5). Is bigger really better?

Please tell me I’m not the only one 😩

Today has completely thrown us. My 11-week-old was awake for around 6 hours with hardly any proper nap, despite us trying everything to get her to sleep. She’d yawn, we’d try to settle her, but she just wouldn’t go off. To make it even harder, I think she needed a poo and was bunged up, so her sleep and hunger cues became really confusing.

Our health visitor wasn’t concerned, but I’m finding it so hard to know what to do when she seems exhausted but just won’t sleep.

Has anyone else’s baby had days like this? What worked for you? Did they eventually grow out of it?

I feel like we’ve got it all wrong today. It’s not the first time it’s happened either, so I’d really love to know we’re not alone ❤️

Struggling…

I’m really struggling at the moment. The cluster feeding is exhausting. The loud crying is heartbreaking and frustrating in equal measure. I lose my patience so quickly, especially doing the night feeds. My back is killing me. I feel so isolated and lonely even though I have a partner and family surrounding me. I could just cry constantly. We’re 5 weeks in and it just feels like it’s never going to get better. I love her so much I just wish it would be a little bit easier some days..

What time does your baby go to bed?

My babies 7 weeks and we just put him to bed when we go to bed which can be like 10-11. Unsure if I should be making an effort to do so earlier? He does basically contact nap on us the whole evening

Advice please- poorly toddler

My son randomly got unwell around 4:30pm tonight. We was out visiting family so I bought him home and he was sleepy. Tested his temperature when we got home and it was 39.1 and he was very sleepy.
He had 5ml calpol at 5:45 and the temperature was 39.1. At 6:30 it was 38.2 so I tried to give him some milk and he only drank 4oz, usually he’d finish the whole 8oz and fell back to sleep. I’ve put him in his cot with a fan oscillating just checked it again and his temp is 37.8 but he’s still very sleepy.
It’s usually his bedtime anyway but do I try waking him and see if he properly wakes up or do I leave him to sleep and see how he goes in the night?

He was shivering earlier which he’s never done with a high temperature before so I’m extra worried he’s going to be extra sleepy even though his temperatures came down I’m not quite sure what to do. Any advice will be appreciated please x

Please help

My husbands dad, every time we are with him he has my 2.9 year old daughter sitting his lap and he starts running his fingers across her legs and arms and opens her belly and rubs his fingers against her belly then says does that feel good? And I don’t know if this is normal but I feel like I could burst into tears watching it. It just doesn’t seem normal but maybe it is? Please let me know if I’m over reacting?