Creating habits - hot topic!!!

Hello,

So I just wanted to share my experience with my first baby 8 months old to be tomorrow.

Every time I would post in here asking about ‘creating habits’ or ‘should I or not’ , I have been told ‘yes it’s normal’, ‘comfort your baby’, ‘why are you surprised, do what baby needs’, bla bla bla
So even though at the end of the day it’s us making the decisions, we still very often listening to people who have more experience than us 🤷‍♀️ that’s the truth.

My point is, I’ve listened so many times to other mothers here (telling me off almost 🙈) saying ‘it’s normal’ when actually no, it is not normal. Maybe other mothers are okay with their babies not sleeping through the night until they are 3 years old. Yeah, good for you. But if you can do something so baby actually sleep through then why wouldn’t you??

Putting hand on baby chest - hearing from other moms here ‘comfort the baby’, ‘baby need you, you are not creating bad habits, why needing you it’s creating bad habit??’ - yeah, cool. My baby got used to my hand and had very difficult time to change it later. Thanks for the advise! 🙏😅

Feeding to sleep and at night - no issue, baby need it! No bad habit. Really?? Baby eating over 1L of formula during the day and 3 big meals and you still telling me it’s not creating habit feeding to sleep for baby then waking up at night and not being able to put baby back to sleep without a bottle 🙈

There is more….. (dummy, baby sleeping in baby carrier, sleeping bag etc)

I just want to say what I decided to do and stopped listening to some of these smart mothers that think everything it’s normal and almost telling off us, FTM’s here.

I have started weaning my baby from one bottle at night. Yes, only one night. But I knew he didn’t need this food! (Yeah yeah, they would say if baby wakes up means needs it 🙈). On top of that I stopped feeding to sleep. First 5 days no difference… but now?? Baby sleeping through the night 11 hours

I only regret I didn’t listen to my gut earlier. Should have done these both things earlier. I have created so many bad habits because I been told ‘you are not creating bad habits’

For all the FTM moms out here. If you think you are creating a bad habit , you probably are. Not worth asking here. Just go with what you think is best and stop listening to other moms especially the ones who think they know better (it’s easy to see in comments which mothers are the ‘smart ones’)

Peace 🙏😅

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I don’t want her to grow up! ☹️

Not a crazy post but maybe a crazy mommy. It’s so weird how having a baby completely rewires your brain! Before getting pregnant my husband and I agreed that we would NEVER cosleep! We said as soon as we get home from the hospital for the first week or two she would sleep in her bedside bassinet then we put her in her crib in her own room. Weeellll day one she slept in the bed, we thought just this once! She’s little and I wanted to get all the newborn snuggles on my first night home. Two months old now and she hasn’t left our bed 😭 I dread thinking about putting her in her own room. I don’t even want to put her in the bassinet! I told myself I’d never have a velcro baby but now I’m a Velcro mommy!! I don’t want her to leave ☹️☹️ I’d feel like I’m losing my baby 😭 (pic from her daddy 🥹)

Phone passcode?

Why would someone change their phone passcode?

My phone was dying and I need to take photos of my ear as I was in a lot of pain and when I took my earring out I started bleeding. I wanted to see what happened.

Anyway. Tried my phone first but the screen went dark as it was dying so I borrowed my partners and figured I'd send myself the pictures.

Except after I took the photos, I couldn't log in. Tried many times, went slow, then slower. Mixed up the numbers in case I had it wrong and then logged into my phone (on charg at this point) to search our texts as he had sent me the code nearly a month ago to access his tablet. Same code.

It was the code I thought and had tried many times. I tried it again 2 or 3 times and when it still didn't work I got this feeling in the pit of mg stomach and put the phone back and typing this.

He is asleep so can't ask him until tomorrow.

PPA and struggling badly

I've had to write this and rewrite it a few times as I'm so uncomfortable asking here.

I'm really struggling mentally and physically, for the past few days I've been struggling badly, I've asked friends and family and everyone seems to be in the same boat. I'm really in need of nappies, wipes and food for myself (I'm breastfeeding so I really only need oat based things to keep my supply up). Please please please if anyone has the ability to help, I don't mind if it's a few people who give a small amount so it's less pressure on 1 person. I feel cheeky and genuinely quite scared at the replies I'll receive here, that's why I'm anon. My daughter's 8 weeks old and I'm struggling with post partum anxiety really badly. I haven't slept for days just watching her over her cot. Everything's just really intense.

I'm more than happy to pick things up from stores if it's nearby, I just really want some peace of mind, I feel like an absolutely horrible parent.

Sorry about this post but thanks for reading even if you csnt help ♥️

6 week old slept 8 hour

My 6 week old slept last night from midnight and was still sleeping but starting to stir at 8am. Is this too long for his age?

After her regained his birth weight the midwife said he was big enough to not have to wake for feeds every 4 hour, but this was when he was sleeping 5 hour stretch, whereas last night he went 8 hour

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