Sex Toys and Sex Drive

My boyfriend 34 states he needs a fleshlight because he has a higher sex drive than me. He bought one 1 year into our relationship and hide it from me. It didn't fit him so he publicly wrote a review and then threw it away. Now that I found out about it years later he said he had one with his ex and used it everyday. He said he didnt feel guilty about the one he ordered with me it was more so not meant to be.

He does not like me using vibrators of my own because he said I will get burned out and not want to do anything with him.
Looking back now when he bought a fleshlight and hide it, he wasn't able to cum during sex. He kept saying he doesn't need to cum all the time, he rarely cums during a blow job.

Im not sure how to feel at this point, im a mom of 3 boys working cooking cleaning to maintain a house and pay bills. He works pays rent and Masturbates every chance he gets.

I don't think my drive is less than his I just feel if I don't initiate anything he rarely does and turns to buying a toy instead and blames me for it.

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Sounds like an addiction or obsession of sorts, paired with him being a hypocrite about you having your own toys.

Porn addiction, mine would use apps to hide the porn videos. And I had a high sex drive myself

There’s absolutely nothing wrong w/toys being used to enhance your sex life together or even on that rare occasion when it’s just too difficult to find enough time for the type of sex you prefer w/your partner, like for example my hubs & I would rather wait a month, if that’s what it takes, until we can find a good couple hours alone when sleep/health isn’t top priority. The anticipation is hot & something we work towards all the time, so it’s not lonely or boring or anything like that, but sometimes I just need an O to get me through, not often, but my hormones are a bit wonky being in peri & all, my hubs seems to have no trouble holding off, honestly it freaking amazing me that he doesn’t immediately get off once I’m there & naked, it never takes me more than a few seconds, but he manages to hold back. If he wanted to add a toy I wouldn’t mind at all, we talk & tease about using the toys we have but we never do, they’re still there to enhance not to take our place tho.

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