I'm so lost

My husband had been having an affair for almost a year. I uncovered this when I was 3 months pregnant.

My baby is 11 months now, and we have been trying to rebuild. Someday, I think we are making progress. He has been spending family time with us and taking leave from work to be with us more.

However, today, he was upset about how I speak of his family. I got emotional telling him that I can never respect his family after they barely checked in on me whilst I was pregnant because it was more comfortable for them to brush his affair under a rug and not face it.

He became so cold and horrible. He told me I always deflect whenever he talks about his feelings. He said him being upset has become about why I'm now upset. I don't disagree with this.

However, what upset me was how he was acting towards me. He swore at me, told me to stay in my room, and told me I'd never change. He then proceeded to send me a long message about how I take no accountability, and he can't be upset because he's done worse . He swore at me while holding our baby. He then shouted at me while we were out. I was crying, and he told me to sort my face out before I got out the car while I was in tears.

We never ever argue in front of our baby, so today has been difficult for me seeing how he was being in front of baby. He seemed to have just lost it. It's not a regular occurrence, but I'm just so lost. I can't leave him because I stupidly love him.

Has anyone been through something similar or knows anyone who has? Any advice?

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Cheating husband

Found messages on my husbands phone of him dming multiple women towards the end of my pregnancy and even just 2 days after I gave birth to our second child. Honestly, it’s put me off him and I feel sick. Nothing can justify this scummy behaviour! So whilst I was birthing OUR child and going through all the changes he was just trying to get his leg over???? I confronted him and he said- we were in a bad place and you had said you wanted a divorce. LOL, the gaslighting is unreal! Because now he doesn’t want to give me a divorce. Little cunt

How to make money elsewhere?

OK so I currently work a 9-5. Making £4495.70 monthly. By time tax, student loan, NI come out all I get is £3060.

I ddont see myself being in this job forever as its mentally taxing and honestly the pay in my opinion is not great. Work is stressful and doesntly allow me to be a happy version of myself.

I am trying to think of other ways to earn money. I like the idea of working for myself.

Can you recommend ideas?

How long do you recommend staying in a job that you don't enjoy.

I'm looking for a friends every friend.I've tried making on here

Has never wanted to meet up or even talk on the phone I would love a phone talking , buddy or facetime , buddy , who would like to be friends cause i'm tired of these moms on here saying they won't be friends and never contacting me

Childcare funding

Please can someone help me on when is the best date to put down to return to work to make sure I don’t mess the funding up.

LO is due to start nursery at the start of September, I was due back middle of October but having to end early for his funded childcare to be eligible for that term( will be 10 months old when starting).

I know I have to return to work within the 31 days of him starting the term,

When is the best date to do this to make sure I don’t mess up the funding?

Would the 30th September be fine to do or is a few days prior best practice?

Sorry if this doesn’t make sense

Selling prams!!

Where's everyone found they had the most success selling a travel system? I've not had any interest and need my old one gone as I have no room to store it😩 it's listed everywhere I can think and I've reduced the price of it!!

I thought I found a bestie!

Everytime I find a bestie it seems to go good for the first few days or week than it goes south. We exchange numbers and text, it does go really well and start planning to talk onthe phone and then try to meet up.

It does go further and I guess I maybe bi-curious but I have never done anything or sent many pictures and they seem to get upset or stop talking to me. I dont mind doing that stuff but Im shy and I have lost a ton of weight and Im waiting on my visit to the plastic surgeon at the beginning of the fall so Im not completely comfortable with my body yet.
Does anyone have any advice or come across the same scenario. Maybe I. just too old..Who knows. I am in my 40s, married with 2 kids and I think Im pretty cute so whats the deal...lol