I thought I found a bestie!

Everytime I find a bestie it seems to go good for the first few days or week than it goes south. We exchange numbers and text, it does go really well and start planning to talk onthe phone and then try to meet up.

It does go further and I guess I maybe bi-curious but I have never done anything or sent many pictures and they seem to get upset or stop talking to me. I dont mind doing that stuff but Im shy and I have lost a ton of weight and Im waiting on my visit to the plastic surgeon at the beginning of the fall so Im not completely comfortable with my body yet.
Does anyone have any advice or come across the same scenario. Maybe I. just too old..Who knows. I am in my 40s, married with 2 kids and I think Im pretty cute so whats the deal...lol

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wtf do I do

I'm temporarily living with my MIL, partner and baby (6mo). I found in my underwear drawer sexy panties that. are. not. mine. Thinking it got mixed with my MIL's, I left it in her room. She gave it back, said it couldn't be hers.
Last weekend I had kind of a big fight with my partner, and he said he wasn't happy, and resented me a little. I went to my mom's house and stayed there 2 days. He unplugged the baby cam.
We talked, and decided we're both doing some changes so we're better as a couple. He's not very sexual, I suspect he's a bit depressed, and we've only had sex twice since baby was born.
I used to make jokes about him cheating (when he was glued to his phone texting I would said things like "Oh, tell your lover I said hi!" and stuff like that, and he laughed or act like annoyed I even thought something like that. I don't joke like that anymore, and haven't for a long time tho. When I told him it was a VERY strange situation, and said I couldn't imagine how did those panties ended up in my drawer he got weird. I DON'T KNOW, I feel I might be confusing intuition with anxiety, but he said I was just as suspicious as him, and when I told him how so? he said I could've brought them by mistake from my mom's house. Then I said it wasn't possible, and asked how would he react if underwear that wasn't his just APPEARED in his drawer, and he said "It has happened, and I wasn't dramatic about it". THAT'S BS. Now my stomach hurts and my chest hurts, and I can't stop spiraling over this.
I have never checked his phone, and neither has he. We trust each other, I know his password, and if I need to look something up I use his phone sometimes, and it isn't a big deal. If I check it and he finds out he will feel disrespected (if he went through my phone, even tho I have nothing to hide, I would feel so hurt).
But I fear if I don't check, I might never know if he cheated. He's a very good liar (although he hasn't lied to me, I think...) and he probably knows if I found out he cheated we are completely done. No second chances. So if I just ask him directly, I fear he might just lie and deny it. But if I check his phone and there's nothing I'm going to feel so guilty...
Please help. I'm going crazy.

Relationship struggles

My 7 week old and I are going to stay with my friend because my partner and I are not doing great. :/

I cheated on my bf while he was in prison and today he went through my phone and found my friends number that I never put in my contacts and he asked me who it was. He gave me 2 seconds to look at the phone number and started calling me a whore and a liar. We argued alll morning and haven’t spoke in hours…. I decided to go stay a night or two away. :/ I thought he was my future. Seems it’s not looking that way anymore. PHONE NUMBER IS A MOM FRIEND

How often do you orgasm?

I want to know how do woman in general feel about sex and pleasure, do you usually orgasm, and do you use toys during sex with your partner?

I feel constantly so unsatisfied and pent up, and my partner sees toys as a threat to his masculinity.

What would you expect from your partner if they said this…

Not what SHOULD you expect, but what WOULD you expect from YOUR partner? Scenario:
• partner ran a bath upstairs
• partner forgot to set a timer
• partner floods bathroom
• partner uses ALL the towels to soak up the floor
• partner says they’ll sort it
• you want to have a shower the next day, no towels in the cupboard
• partner says “I’ve sorted the towels, they’re all drying in the conservatory”

Do you think it's gross?

Do you think it's gross for a woman to swim at public pool on her period even if she is wearing tampons?

What is your SAHM schedule?

I've recently learnt I need to treat being a SAHM like a job and you don't start out knowing everything about any job so please share your schedules and tips.