My husband has a girlfriend

Even though that I had said to my husband that I was alright for him to have a girlfriend I still feel a bit jealous because she had asked him if he would like to go upstate to go and see her for the whole week and I’m 36 weeks pregnant. I’m just so afraid of him not being able to come back on time when it’s time for our son to be born and I’m so afraid that let’s say if those two get intimate with each other, I don’t know if he’s gonna come back to me with something. I am bisexual and I always did wanted to have a sister wife, but she said that she will only be with a female whenever she is drunk. I’m not comfortable with that, but I love this man to the point where I want to see him happy I honestly don’t know how to tell him because him and this woman had known each other for a short period of time I knew him for about a good year we met last August and our son will be born in August probably even a little earlier than that but I’m just so afraid that I may lose him to her if y’all ladies was in my shoes, how would y’all go about this?

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I would probably never be in your shoes but reading it makes it seem like he’s having his cake and eating it too. He’s getting all the benefits out of this but what are you getting? You’re open to sharing a girl but she isn’t even down with that unless she’s drunk… so to me you’re getting the raw end of a deal. He’s continuing to peruse her anyways knowing it’s basically a one sided type of thing. As soon as she said she wasn’t down for both of you he should have dropped her out of respect for you.

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