Sleep deprivation/hormones = poor relationship??
Really struggling at the moment. I’m nearly at week 7 and alongside my baby who still won’t settle at night due to reflux/wind, barely settles in the day unless being held/carried, and is taking an hour to feed through crying/gagging at the bottle I feel like I’m going through intense PMS.
My mood swings are crazy and I find if I can get nothing done in the day except feed my LO, I’m so so stressed which makes me naggy with my partner when he comes home from work - he thinks just holding her while I can do other house bits is helpful (which it is, but if he could muck in and do housework too that would be great)
Me and partner are still sleeping separately, he’s downstairs on a mattress and I’m upstairs with LO trying to settle her all night. This was fine except now it’s making me feel so disconnected from my partner.. I don’t feel like we’re a team and just passing ships.
Friends have offered to baby sit for a night so we can go to the cinema, but I’d feel so guilty leaving her, has anybody else left their 7 week old for a date night?
Me and partner have barely held each other since LO was born, never mind sleep in the same bed and DEFINITELY haven’t done the deed.. as much as I’d like to be intimate again, the thought of doing this with her in the next to me?? Would that not be weird?
Just feeling a bit lost and like me and partner won’t find each other again. Someone please tell me we will, and that I will eventually exit robot mum personality and become a bit of myself again ☹️ feeling so unattractive with my new saggy unwashed body while partner resumes his almost back to normal life.
Can anybody relate and tell me this all gets easier?
am i a terrible person
let’s just say me and my husband aren’t in the best financial situation. we barely scrape by on rent, get behind on some bills and can’t afford groceries or diapers from time to time. this is one of those times we barely scraped by on bills so we don’t have ANY extra money. ZERO. (also partially because he eats fast food at work basically every day instead of packing a fucking lunch) but, my mom is nice enough to help us when we need it. she’ll buy groceries that wic doesn’t cover, diapers, gas, things like that. this month my mom has helped upwards of $400. anyways. my husband comes home from work and says he found $25 in his work truck, i’m thinking FANTASTIC! just in time to buy wipes, milk, and get gas for him to go to work tomorrow so i don’t need to drain my mom😋 he then follows it with he gave it all away to a homeless man. i’m a bit peeved. because we could’ve really used that money. he says i’m selfish and only think of myself. i said we really needed that, it’s not fair to have to drain my mom out (who is a teacher btw so doesn’t make that much). he says helping people should always inconvenience yourself, i said it’s more than inconveniencing us. WE DONT HAVE ANYTHING! if it weren’t for the help of my mom we would’ve been homeless by now! not to mention, my husband said i hold no value over the homeless guy or anyone else. i said a hypothetical, if you had to choose to save me or the homeless man who would you save? gun to your head. and he said he would let us all die. am i just being a selfish asshole? please be honest.
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