WWYD in this situation? (Trigger as racism)

So tricky sorry to hear this compromise is key and I believe in speaking your mind ?? Xx

That's a hard one tbh. Surely you've already asked them to stop using the word 'pikey' and replace it by gypsy or traveller (if traveller is the right word or one you'd prefer). I am Argentinian and raising my LG speaking Spanish and English and holding Argentinian traditions as well as Scottish ones because obviously she's 50/50 and found nothing but support from my husband's family. I'm sorry you're going through this

If your husband is not defending you then you're in trouble. If y'all were dating I'd tell you to end it. Nothing worse than a man who can't have boundaries between his 2 families. A partner from different background may love you but it's family and friends that you need to watch out for. Because they are his biggest influences. So he needs to put up boundaries and protect you and your son.

This is a very hard situation. And not likely to change with his family honestly. But you should work with your husband to get a compromise for how you guys plan to raise your child. And for him to accept this part of you. Showing and explaining the ways you have compromised in your life, and the cultural practices you aren't following or raising your child in will help. People don't see others' sacrifices and sometimes you have to spell them out for them to see it. He likely had not fully thought through what the cultural differences were and how it was going to look when it came to child rearing. When you guys get on the same page he will need to also protect your guy's peace when it comes to his family and their views/comments on child rearing and what power they seem to think they have over your guys son and your lives.

He needs to have a talk with his family about their language as well. Using racist, hurtful terms is not ok. They can have their views, but they do not need to speak to you in that way.

I'm sorry but in my opinion you and your husband are not very much in love because he doesn't accept or appreciate your heritage. He chooses to use offensive language rather than having a grown up conversation about his preferences when it comes to dressing your child. He doesn't even respect your right to choose what your own child calls you. That's not my idea of love. It's OK for him to not like the style and want compromise, it's not OK for him to approach it the way he has been. I'd also be seriously looking at putting him in the bin. I'm sorry you've been subjected to this sort of thing from his family, they're obviously quite shitty people but the big issue to me is that your husband isn't stopping this behaviour. He should be in your corner 😔