Oral dysfunction ?

FTM and I wondered whether I need to speak to a doctor etc
My little boy is 9 weeks old and we had latch issues initially with breastfeeding and was referred for tongue tie which he doesn’t have.
He struggles to keep a dummy in his mouth all the time.
He mouth breathes a lot.
We combi feed, and sometimes he struggles with his bottle, we have upped his teat size as he was taking for ever with no1 teats and falling asleep, now he sometimes struggles with breathing and drinking and the muslin we use gets pretty wet as it’s coming out of the side of his mouth.
And his lips look like he has the rippling (forgot the name of it)
When I’ve googled oral dysfunction some of these things indicate this but also I don’t know if this is pretty normal.

Photo below- after falling asleep breast feeding, apparently the tongue needs to be on the roof of his mouth.

Which sometimes he does but not all the time. Is this something I need to keep an eye on/ speak to a doctor ?

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Decided not to cut tongue tie - have I made the right call?

My baby is nearly 6 weeks old and we had an appointment for his tongue tie at 4 weeks, we decided not to cut it.
Context-
He could not breastfeed at all, and lost a lot of weight in the first 3 days however we switched to bottles and he now gains weight brilliantly, some milk comes out the sides of his mouth but it’s never an insane amount and he drinks his bottle without any fuss.
He has a posterior tongue tie which the clinician said is very far back in his mouth. He scored 6/10 and 7/14 on the assessment.
They said to us that healing on a tongue tie this far back would be more difficult and it’s at a higher chance of bleeding after the division which obviously made us nervous. They said it was up to us, and we decided because he is gaining weight on his bottles that we wouldn’t cut it. But now I’m questioning my decision.
Will his posterior tongue tie cause troubles later on? I’ve been told it can affect weaning, speech. He is quite a fussy baby sometimes and now I’m like oh is this because of the tongue tie?
Has anyone not cut their babies tongue tie and they’ve been ok?
Subsequently has anyone had their babies tongue tie cut after the 6 week mark because of other issues they’ve run into?
Advice appreciated x

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I'm a single mum and struggling with no help or not as much as I actually need and if I'm honest I'd be someone who NEEDED night help but it never came. I just feel so guilty for what I just did. I am a general gentle parent but I will have outburst of just pure rage and I feel so awful like I'm going to damage my child.

AITA? My husband chooses to go to sleep at 2/3am and then is exhausted the rest of the day for us.

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