Daughters key person is my high school bully 💀😭

So my daughter has been at the same nursery since she was 11 months old (now 3) and it’s an absolutely brilliant setting and has been since she started, her older sister left last year for primary school and when the preschool kids left, so did some of the staff (one went on mat leave and another retired) so they’ve had a reshuffle of staff and obviously taken on new staff… we recently got letters to say that my daughters key person was changing to a new person (for the sake of this I’ll call them Jenna).

It’s a very rare name and idk how I didn’t catch on to it being the same person because I had just forgotten she existed for the last 10 years but I dropped my little girl off on Monday morning and lo and behold, it’s the girl who terrorised me for 5 years straight in high school. And I’m not just talking your basic name calling, I mean like actively attacking me on the way home essentially daily for years, telling me to SH and started countless rumours about me being a boy because I was flat chested amongst other things 💀

I recognised her straight away and as soon as I said something about my little girl, she looked at me and asked if she knew me because she recognised me 💀 i just stood there like… ummm, maybe we went to school together but otherwise idk? Idk I panicked 😂 obviously she didn’t say anything but I was just stood there like 👀 so now I’m sort of in a weird limbo of never mentioning it because that would be stupidly awkward and just sort of saying I recognise her and getting it over with because I have to see this woman every day now until my daughter goes to primary school and I just cba 😭💀

Has anyone dealt with this before and what did you do 💀

in our community

Anyone else had to get creative with feeding?

My son is being so fussy recently. I often have to feed him in creative ways (see photo 😂) because having the bottle in a normal position sometimes makes him upset. Anyone else experiencing this?

WWYD in this situation? (Trigger as racism)

I come from the gypsy community but married out of it. I would still class myself as a gypsy with my morals, values and the way I hold myself. I’m still in contact with all my family who are English gypsies.

So my husband. I told him what I was from day one and he was fine about it whatever. I’ve recently had a baby and I’m dressing my baby traditionally and buying him jewellery ect and I will raise him speaking our language and hold him to the same values and tradition that I come from.

My husband is now making comments “why is it always from your side” “I’m not raising my child that way” another stupid one is I wanna be called mam but he REFUSES to call me it and calls me mummy or mom.

My husbands family are the same they will use racist remarks and I’ve heard them say “that’s so pikey” which is a racial slur towards us. When I told his family I’ve been looking at jewellery to get him they said “uh isn’t that a bit chavvy? Is that the gypo in you coming out” and I said well yeah he is a gypsy boy and they went to say “yeah HALF HALF”

It’s driving me mad. I want to raise him how I was raised and I told my husband this but now it’s becoming a serious problem in the relationship. I don’t mind him having some “normal” behaviours as his family are already making plans to do with my son in the future (another issue as they think they have so much control over him but didn’t give a shit when I was pregnant) but to me family come before anything and I want my child to be close to both parts of his family not just mine. I don’t see the issue with raising him half and half but it seems to me now that my husband and his family have a massive problem with it to the point where I’m ready to tell them all to fuck off. How can they use racist terms that reflect their own grandchild?????

What would you do? I’ve already said my child is half and they’re still having issues. Me and my husband are still very much inlove and we do get on well he’s nothing but good to me in all other terms this is the only issue that we have.

I just now feel stuck.

I feel like we already have a lot of racism towards us I don’t need it coming from so called family too :)

Would you let your 2.5 play on their own in their room?

We just got back from a holiday where she spent some time playing with other children in our extended family (3&5 year old) in their bedroom with less adult supervision. I was on edge the whole time because I thought she was too young to be playing without an adult there, so I stayed at the bottom of the stairs and checked in frequently.

However, she showed me that she could be well behaved, independent and safe when I’m not there and she played amazingly and never took it to a place where I needed to intervene.

Coming home, she’s wanted to go upstairs a lot more in her room and I’m wondering other people’s thoughts on letting her spend some time alone in her room playing. Obviously risk assessments have been made, she had a camera in her room so I could watch her & there is a gate at the top of the stairs.

She’s already extremely independent and I trust her a lot (as much as you can trust a 2 year old anyway🤣) and she listens to instructions very well.

Anyway, let me know what you’re thoughts are please🤍

Meals

I am really struggling with what meals to give my 12 month old every day.
I try to make sure he has iron rich food every day but seem to just end up getting stuck in the same cycle of giving him the same stuff pretty much.
Can you guys tell me what your weekly meals look like particularly dinner time please?
Breakfast is quite easy, it’s just the cooking and planning for dinner that I’m getting really overwhelmed with.
Thank you

Nursery age

What age did everyone put their lo in nursery and do you recommend that age? Or if you’ve had multiple children starting at different ages which worked best?

Husband always whinges when I cook from scratch for our toddler

He says it takes up too many dishes (I always clean them afterwards so idk why he even cares) and says our kid never even eats it so what's the point, it's a waste of food. (I always freeze and eat the food if he doesn't like it)

I think he just sees it as pointless and too much work when we can just give him cheap store-bought food, but that make me feel so guilty.

Our son is quite a picky eater and will only eat nuggets, chips and sausage rolls and sometimes pasta.

So I'm attempting to make these things at home so I at least know all the ingredients and they're made fresh and low/no salt, sugar etc.

I'm also trying to blend up and hide veg in them too.

My husband thinks this is just causing more mess and hassle than it's worth but in my opinion if I can make something he likes and it's healthier for him, plus I can make way more for cheaper, then it's much better?

I'm sick of feeding him nuggets and chips from the shop every night. But then I'm made to feel like I'm inconveniencing my husband when I'm not??