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Oral dysfunction ?

FTM and I wondered whether I need to speak to a doctor etc
My little boy is 9 weeks old and we had latch issues initially with breastfeeding and was referred for tongue tie which he doesn’t have.
He struggles to keep a dummy in his mouth all the time.
He mouth breathes a lot.
We combi feed, and sometimes he struggles with his bottle, we have upped his teat size as he was taking for ever with no1 teats and falling asleep, now he sometimes struggles with breathing and drinking and the muslin we use gets pretty wet as it’s coming out of the side of his mouth.
And his lips look like he has the rippling (forgot the name of it)
When I’ve googled oral dysfunction some of these things indicate this but also I don’t know if this is pretty normal.

Photo below- after falling asleep breast feeding, apparently the tongue needs to be on the roof of his mouth.

Which sometimes he does but not all the time. Is this something I need to keep an eye on/ speak to a doctor ?

I think I may have accidentally created a bad night sleeping routine with my baby. Can I still change it? HOW?

So, my 1 month old baby is mostly sleeping during the day. But her deep sleep is from morning to midday. The last week, we have been having troubles with her sleeping normally at night and she's been uncomfortable and on/off crying loud as well, which sometimes I am unsure if she's just tired or colic. As a first time mum with only husband as my support, IDK what to do. Like last night, she was crying and sleeping from around 11pm to 4am on/off. She sleeps for like 15mins then cry for almost an hour and repeat. At first, we tried burping her and she was not doing it. She managed to burp but then still cried as if she's uncomfortable.

Having PPD&A also did not help. Everyday I only get 3-4 of sleep (interrupted) they said sleep when the baby sleeps but I just can't as when she's sleeping in the morning, that's when my mind starts thinking about a lot of things.

When will the sleeping get better? 🥺 I want to be a happy and jolly mum for her but doing it tired and sleepless is hard. 😞

**Also, what do I do to lessen her grunts during sleep? sometimes she sounds like she's wheezing and grunting and wakes me up at night. HV said it's normal but just keeps me up and just makes me watch her sleep.

Feeling detached / numb about my pregnancy

Good morning everyone, I’m a first time mom to be, due Jan 29th. I’ll be 13 weeks tomorrow. I just had my second sonogram beginning of my second trimester. I’ve been feeling very depressed and kind of detached from my womb/baby. I’m not sure if it’s because of resent the father or myself for how things turned out the way it did before the baby is even born. I already made a choice not abort. But I’m struggling to be happy about this. I don’t know how to be. My family and friends are all excited and gleaning with joy but there’s no excitement in me. Inside I want to scream. I feel numb. And in a way I feel love bombed and cheated out of a happy pregnancy. I’m very upset with myself because I feel like my baby will grow up without a father because I have to protect my peace. I found out I’m the “other” woman, I’m basically a secret. So I feel like my pregnancy is based on lies instead of real love. And it’s killing me to pretend I’m happy when I’m truly not. I know the baby can feel everything I feel. I don’t know what to do, where to go or who to talk to. Church is very judgemental I wouldn’t dare say what I’m truly going through, and family can be very hypocritical and overprotective given the circumstances. All I know is I’m not bringing this baby into a two parent home like I thought I would. And I honestly just feel like another statistic. I’m adding to the generational curse instead of breaking it.

Weaning off of breast to only bottle

i'm so lost on what to do. My baby is nine weeks old and I'm trying to wean off of breast-feeding and only do bottle feeding milk. He keeps refusing bottles. I tried the Dr. Brown ones. I'm gonna try the pigeon ones next if anyone has any tips on how to just wean off of breast and only get bottles please let me know I'm struggling.

Going abroad with baby for first time

Planning a much needed trip to Greece, and I’m wondering what to do about a car seat. We will be renting a car and I’ve seen that you ca rent a car seat but it’s sometimes a bit hit and miss on the condition and availability. So on that basis do we take our own? How does it work taking it on the plane? And what happens if it gets lost?!
Thank you!

Nursery start at 13.5 mo

Hi! I have a breastfed baby boy who’s due to start nursery mid Aug - initially for a couple of hours, hopefully progressing to 6-7h 3x per week by mid Sep. He’s nursing to sleep - almost impossible to put him down for a nap (still on two naps) without a breast unless it’s a car. He eats solids better for the last 4-5 weeks and I’m trying to reduce daytime nursing but it’s not easy, when he wants it he wants it ;)
I don’t want to stop breastfeeding yet, possibly not until he’s 2 but I’m worried about nursery! They say babies adapt but has anyone experience similar and can share? Do I just start the adaptation without making any changes at home and let him adjust over the weeks when he’s there?