MIL drama post partum

Am I crazy at being offended at this? My MIL and FIL came to see their new grandchild who's two weeks old. They're thankfully staying at a hotel, but my MIL is coming over everyday (for 10 days) while her husband works from the hotel. They want to take my husband out to a fancyish($40/plate) dinner without me or the baby. If we went on a weeknight we'd be in an empty restaurant. I mentioned wanting to come with the baby and my MIL got offended. She wants "time alone with their son" and "the baby would ruin the mood". She's already getting a few hours with him alone everyday, is taking him shopping without me tomorrow afternoon and he's already gone out to the shooting range with his dad. Am I overreacting to being told I cannot come out to dinner? They offered to bring me back food, but I feel so disrespected that they're making this visit all about time with their son.

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How do you feel about having your in-laws for five days in your home when your newborn will be 1 month old?

Hi all, my mother will come to help me after and before the birth for few weeks while my in laws would like to stay with us for 5 days or a week when the baby will be around 1 month. They are really nice people but I don’t feel comfortable living with them for few days while I’ll be still recovering and likely breastfeeding hence I’ll be with my breasts out most of the day, and being super uncomfortable, without having enough space and privacy. Plus my toddler will be home with a babysitter for a while and it might become overcrowded. Am I over worrying? I obviously don’t have the same issue with my parents but my inlaws they might struggle to accept they are not welcome in this delicate phase, especially because they are coming after one month and not immediately.
Any advice? My friends don’t really get it because they live with their parents nearby and do not have the issue of having parents abroad that must stay with you when they come to visit you because a hotel would be a crazy option to propose.

What would you do?

I’ve just found out I’m pregnant with baby number 2 and my husband and I are very excited to tell our closest family. We’re having a dinner tomorrow night with my in-laws and I’m in two minds about telling my SIL (and BIL) because her uncle has been in hospital unwell, and she’s found out (about 3 days ago or so) that he has terminal cancer. She’s quite upset understandably so I feel conflicted whether to share our news just yet…is it in poor taste/bad timing to tell her given her uncle?
I feel bad telling my MIL and FIL without her as we usually do family announcements for pregnancies like the 6 of us (she’s pregnant too). What would you do?

My husband is leaving me to “find a better woman”

He says he’s going to trade up and find a woman who is better than me… he thinks he’ll find someone who can cook and clean better, be ready for sex 24/7, and not have opinions and just sit there silently all day.

He called me horrible, horrible names… he said I’m an embarrassment to our family, and all I do is humiliate them by talking to tell much. He said I’m a disgusting and nasty woman with nothing to offer him, and all I do is hold him back. He said he deserves a woman who works as hard as he does, and still maintains the home and kids by herself and is ready for sex at bed time, and wakes up wanting it too. He called me a whore and a bitch. He said I’m crazy and unstable and everyone hates me. He listed people we are close to (friends and family) and told me these horrible things they allegedly think about me, and how everyone tells him to leave me because he’s too good for me.

He didn’t come home last night… he went to his brothers house, and sent his brother to come get some of his things.

I feel completely blindsided… the night before he held me and told me he loved me and didn’t know how he got so lucky to have me. He told me he would give up everything for our family, and he thanked me for giving him the only family he’s ever known. When I pointed this out to him he just laughed this cocky laugh and said “things change.” I asked if there was someone else, which made him really mad, but he insisted there wasn’t. He said it’s all me, and I just suck so much he can’t stand the idea of spending another day with me, even if it means losing his kids, because I make him miserable and ruined his whole life…

I just don’t know what happened. I cried all night and just begged him to come home and talk to me, but he won’t. He says he’s weak for how beautiful I am and knows he’ll go back on his word if he sees me face to face, but he’s allegedly always hated me as a person and was just keeping me around because all his friends were jealous he pulled such a hot/attractive woman, but now they realize it’s just because I’m a psycho. (I swear I didn’t do anything leading up to this. It was just a regular day).

I feel completely shattered. I feel so insecure and sad and like I hate myself. He pulled at every single lose thread I had, and now I’m just unraveling and tattering all over.

Also, I pull my weight. Our house was my premarital asset. Both cars are in my name. I make three times his income. I am solely responsible for house maintenance, paying the bills, and child care. I cook every single night. We have sex nearly every single night. The house gets a little messy, but I’m working 50 hours a week and I never get time to myself, and the only thing I ever ask him to do is take the trash out. The dinner thing is because one night I got home late from the kids soccer game, so I made stuffed peppers for dinner and they weren’t homemade (they were stoffers), and he flipped out that I fed him slop. I served it on rice with homemade garlic bread, I just was tired and needed to feed my family… I busy my ass every day, and never complain about it. I just silently take it and make sure my family is happy. And now I feel so broken…

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Do you charge ontop of your hourly rate ?

MIL is against Halloween

My MIL is totally against Halloween and she believes that it’s devilish etc. she’s just against anything full stop to do with magic/ wizards/ witches even to the point where my 3 year old was watching wizard of oz an animated version and my MIL told me she shouldn’t be watching it it’s not very nice as it’s got a witch. I’m preparing myself now for Halloween because my MIL looks after my daughter twice a week and she influences her big time and really drums things into her head. Prior to this wasn’t an issue because my daughter was too young but now she’s nearly 4 this year I’m really going to want to do things with her for Halloween and she’ll be able to talk about it etc. If my MIL starts telling her things like Halloween is bad etc how can I navigate this? Without causing issues with my MIL. How do I communicate it with my toddler if she starts learning from her grandma that she shouldn’t celebrate it etc. any advice in advance would help!