Is anyone feeling done?

Im a first time mom and everytime my almost 2 week old cries its either because shes needing a diaper change or she wants my touch I havent slept in 48 hours because if this im at my wits end call me selfish but im just done when I have no help no partner and no family to speak of anyone else just tired of it? And yes if there are rude comments I can take it because maybe its a reality check

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Don’t worry I have no help either,my baby just turned 1 month and I was able to get some rest while she slept maybe try doing that,ik it hard right now but u got this just message me and we can talk

honestly you just have to give yourself some grace because doing it alone is always going to be harder then someone that has that help my baby just hit 3 months an my partner as much as he tries to help most of the time she just wants me anyways and i feel alone even when i have him if that makes sense not to make it seems like im ungrateful for having someone but babies are a lot regardless how much help you do have babies have a preference especially if your breastfeeding they are just gonna want you 24/7 but you are doing amazing try to stay positive i know how hard it is i’ve been over it lately too my babygirl won’t sleep with anyone but me and she hates her bassinet so i understand

It sounds like you are in a really tough time in your life. If I wasn't on the other side of the country I'd come help and just hang out with you. I'm sorry you're feeling this way. The first few weeks are hard, I can't imagine how hard without help. Thinking of you and hoping it gets better soon!

Doing it alone is not easy. You are not being selfish.
I agree with KOA, sleep when she sleeps. And if you breastfeed, cosleep. people don’t recommend it but I feel like if you take the precautions it honestly helps ALOT. I’m on my second and I cosleep with her. We take2-3 hr naps together. I also did it with my first.
But definitely gets easier the older they get and the more you get use to your babies needs, ques and schedule! If you need someone to talk to I’m here! Just message me !

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Toddler keeps giving himself an erect!on

I genuinely don’t know what to do about this behavior. First time I noticed it I was giving him a bath and he grabbed a brush, brushed his booty and his little thing went straight up and he thought it was funny.

Obviously I took it away but he’s gotten more creative, he uses other brushes he finds, ice cubes (that he’s always loved to play with), his finger, ect.

He’s noticed we don’t like this behavior and will stop it so he will go to the other room and take off his diaper to do it and then laugh when he gets caught.

I don’t want to traumatize him about his own body and I understand it’s him being curious and not understanding but he has done it so often since finding out he can and it’s relentless about it.

I put clothes on him to but he’ll take them off and if I catch him taking it off he runs away laughing and hides and I’m 6 months pregnant so chasing him is hard

Anyone have any ideas I could get him to stop? Or anyone know why he’s doing this? It’s really bothering me.

I feel like I’m horrible mom

I love my 4 months old daughter. I would do anything for her. I’m a first time mom and I’m doing this basically alone (no village). My husband is at work from 8am to 5:30pm and when he comes home he’s no help. It’s always an argument if I can get a few minutes of help from him.
I also have been dealing with EXTREME back pain from my emergency c-section that I don’t sleep at night.
My daughter has been different today. She’s constantly crying due what seems to be from pain, I’m assuming a mix from gum (teething pain) and reflux. For the first time today she’s puking a lot of her formula milk out. She usually spits but today she has extra burps and a lot more puke. I’ve been comforting her all day. It’s raining so we can’t go out for a walk today.
Since I don’t know how else to comfort her except hold her, read her books, sing to her, pat her on the back, give her snuggles, walk around the house with her, nothing helped. She just kept crying and screaming to the point that I screamed. This is NOT like me. I then put her in her crib and turned on the mobile crib music and left her for 30 seconds to go cry. I know we go through a lot as moms, but I feel horrible and started to cry and then after a few seconds I held her. I ended up giving her 0.25ml of baby Tylenol, and then held her again, I apologized to her while still crying and she smiled and reached out for my face. I feel horrible like I should be able to handle my emotions more.
Again, I’m going through a lot. I miscarried twice, had a surgery, and she is from an emergency c-section. My family lives abroad and I have no one except my not-so-helpful husband. It’s not an excuse. I feel really alone and she depends on me, so I shouldn’t have screamed. I am breaking inside. From pain in my back and lack of sleep, lack of support, it just broke me. I love her so much and I’m so happy she chose me. I don’t know why or what to do, but I have so much guilt and shame

Honestly please

The days me and my baby girl (7m) stay inside for the day I keep her in her sleeper, I know there is nothing wrong with that but when it comes time for bed time, are we changing into new clean sleepers? Or no? After a couple of nights?

Also can I just say how much I love this app because i actually get friendly responses unlike fb groups and I’ve connected with a couple of moms already too

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We have tried everything we can think of but feel these wake windows are not normal.

Has anyone else experienced this?
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