Toilet training
Looking for some advice and reassurance from anyone who’s been through this.
I’ve attempted toilet training before, but after a few accidents my little girl got really upset, so I stopped because I didn’t want to distress her. I decided to take the “she’ll tell me when she’s ready” approach.
Since then, she’s started telling me when she’s done a poo. If she doesn’t say it verbally, she’ll put her hand in her nappy, so I thought she might be becoming more aware and ready to try again.
I’ve got the potty back out and tried making it exciting, but she has a complete meltdown, says “no” and won’t go anywhere near it. I’ve tried a standard potty, one that looks like a little toilet, and a toilet seat with steps, but it’s the same with all three.
She’s starting full-time nursery at a school in September, and ideally they’d like the children to be toilet trained, so I’m starting to feel really stressed and under pressure.
I personally don’t think she’s quite ready, but I also don’t know if this is just a normal part of potty training that we need to work through.
Has anyone else’s little one been like this? Did you wait, or did you persevere? Any tips or experiences would be really appreciated 🩷
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My youngest had a strong association with poos and nappies, he was potty trained for pees by 2 but would ask for a nappy when he needed a poo until he was 3. We would immediately get the poo nappy off once he was done and flush it down the loo together build the association with the loo. He loved to press the flush and wave goodbye his poo 😂 With him he had a bad experience with the loo so preferred the potty, if your LO doesn't like the potty could you try getting a fun toilet seat and stool so she can use the toilet instead?
Following because we have the exact same issue. We tried with some success for a few days then she just grew increasingly resistant with extreme meltdowns so we stopped. She tells us when she does some wees and when she does some poos but trying to do them on the potty is apparently like the world is ending for her. Whether it be a small floor level potty or the steps up to the normal toilet. Not sure what to do next, only thing we haven’t tried yet is a reward system which I think I’ll be doing.
She's more than ready! I recommend you read (and follow) the "Oh crap!" training manual. It's going to be a breeze.
Shes ready, they will always kick up some amount of fuss when changing the status quo.
You just have to be more 'stubborn' than them.
Dedicate a week to it, accidents will make them upset/uncomfortable and thats where the most learning will flourish!
We found reading together books at bedtime (I want my potty, princes Polly potty). You can also get heat activated stickers from Amazon that go inside the potty and reveal an animal when in contact with warm pee - my daughter liked the bunny one and we would sing 'hop little bunny' each time it appeared. Will she sit on the potty with clothes on just practicing?
We tried 6 months ago with my boy and again this week and it was hands down easier this time.
He’s very very stubborn and hates being told what to do so we don’t keep nagging to go for a wee. We went bare bum for a few days to learn his cues and then just remind him ‘you look like you need to wee, the potty is there if you need’. Half the time he takes himself half the time he needs a reminder but constantly saying sit and try made him point blank refuse to even try x
Another vote for the oh crap method. My daughter’s been potty trained for months and showed no signs of being ready
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