Mom guilt..

Just found out I’m pregnant with #2 (planned). However I’m in a state of sadness and feel like I’m letting down my firstborn. He’s 2 1/2 and will be 3 years and some change when #2 is born. I’ve always wanted 3 kids but this mom guilt is killing me. I feel like I won’t love second baby as much or that I’ll neglect my firstborn during those newborn days.
We keep asking him if he wants baby brother or sister and he as ALWAYS said sister and now I’m worried if it’s a brother he won’t like him 😂 I’m an emotional wreck and just need advice to calm my hormones down.

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Just ride through the feelings girl, it’s an absolute rollercoaster! Those feelings will pass quickly, I think it’s very common in early pregnancy. I sat and cried for 2 weeks when I was pregnant with my very wanted second because I thought what have I done 🙈
Also my first kept changing his mind between sis and bro, especially as we got closer to finding out the sex, and I think at one point even he forgot what one he wanted 😂 he was over the moon when he found out what it was 🥰
Congratulations and take a deep breath, you got this!!

I had my second child (daughter) on my son's 2nd birthday. I don't ever give my son "jobs" with the baby to feel included. When pregnant I'll ask where's baby and he'd pat my belly/ give a high five/ or a kiss. Once she was born, I'd stay floor level as much as possible and included him in things that he showed interest in. I'm getting induced today with our third (second daughter) have done the same with my belly. My son and daughter just turned three & one 16 days ago (yes, aperently I have a mating season 😆). The guilt I understand experiencing but please don't let it change what you're going to experience as you're firsts with baby number 2. It'll definitely be different but a change that is out of love.

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