Step children and pregnancy/newborn advice

This is my first child and my husband has 3 children already (11,9 and 3) - with my emotions, I seem to get overwhelmed a lot with there behaviour and I feel do a lot for the kids. I’m the one constantly with them all and it just gets too much. Sometimes I feel it is hard to go from no kids to then 3 kids. - is it wrong to then just want some alone
Time even when they are here?

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Totally understandable. In fact it’s a deal breaker for me. I wouldn’t touch a guy with three kids. It’s hard work.

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I imagine that many kids is overwhelming, I want time to myself with my toddler 🤷🏼‍♀️ that's a very normal feeling. Being a parent is never having enough time to yourself though, even when you do get out and do things (as I do). Idk how to type this to come across nicely but you chose this man, in doing so you committed to those children as well. When you say you're the one constantly with them all, where is their dad in this situation?

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