House chores

LO is now 4 months old, going on 5 and I still can’t get any house work done other than the bed everyday and laundry. The baby is exclusively breastfed, so understandbly that also has some impact. We are even considering bringing a baby sitter in once a week so I help around the house for a full day, clean and batch cook and freeze for us. Baby dad helps, but his own bandwidth is reduced given he can only take the baby after work and we don’t want him to sort out all the house stuff and miss out on bonding with the baby either. How is everybody doing this? Our family is abroad, any tips welcome

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Should the childs father buy clothes if he rarely has the child overnight?

My ex has asked for reduced time rather than long weekends in shorter hald terms and 2 weeks at sumner holidays and 1 week easter and 4 nights at christmas, he has asker for 4 nights twice a year in summer holidays so like 4 nights beginning of and 4 nights the middle or end only. He asked to otherwise see them 10 until 4 every 2 weeks on a saturday for the day. He pays £100 a week for child maintenance altogether for 3 kids. He earns 90k a year and lives rent free. He buys nothing in terms of clothes, school uniforms, shoes, a coat, a school trip etc nothing as he says i should buy everything with the maintenance the 30 odd quid a child a week. They all have additional needs and costs too. They go to 3 different schools due to their needs not being able to be in the same schools. He also expects that on his saturdays i provide packed lunch and drinks and snacks and he gets them after brrakfast being 10am and brings them back before dinner at home. He does no occassions either. School uniforms for september alone cost over £900 activities like football and swimming for 3 kids comes at £200 per month and school dinners is hundreds too. Is it too much to ask he buys a few outfits for them each a couple of times a year ? Contributes to school uniforms n buys his kids something at christmas?

Moving with boyfriend and his son. His son annoys me so much when it comes to food. How do you handle your stepchild or child eating habits? (He’s 13)

Ex. I made chiptole at home, literally every side dish you can think of to put in your burrito. He literally ate 90% of the meat, lettuce and cheese - that’s it. Opens up chips that I would bring over, rips the sides off. Today I found out he opened up literally 5 packs of pancakes just to take 1-2 out of each(their 3 packs) instead of finishing up the pack from before.

Interest in solids

Anybody's baby has started showing a lot of interest in solids? My husband wants to let her lick or have some of his food, I don't think that's a good idea but welcome to hear some thoughts and comments. Thanks

Can he be the one even if I'm unsatisfied sexually?

We dated in college and that was 10 years ago. The sex was great then. We like the same things, he's so respectful, comes from a good family and I've known him all my life because he's my best friend's twin brother. We decided to give it a go again and we have the same chemistry we did before but now I'm so unsatisfied sexually. TMI but last night he initiated sex and this is the first time in maybe 3 years (we had a brief fling then) and he came before we could even have sex..... I said it's ok and we just went to bed. Earlier today he initiated again and we were having sex for maybe 2 minutes, I'm not exaggerating before he said hold on and he had to pull out so he wouldn't finish. And he's trying to keep the mood going because we just started so he's kissing me and stuff but it kind of just frustrated me more. We continue the same way and he stops again. We start again and then we go for maybe a little longer and I finish but not in a very fulfilling way if that makes sense. I tell him not to cum inside of me and he says ok. We continue and I'm finally like yes ok we're getting somewhere. Then he says we have to take a break and pulls out really quickly. I ask if he came and he says he doesn't think so. And then I say I think you came inside of me and he's like I might have came a little bit but I'm pretty sure I came out WTF?!
I don't know if I can have sex this way again. It's frustrating and if this is the sex we are going to have then I don't know if it will get better. I don't know if it was nerves. He's a healthy guy and stuff too man I'm so unsure

FTM traveling with 4 month old

Hey Mamas,

Any tips for me as I travel on a 3.5 hour flight with my 4 month old?

The items to pack, the feeding, everything...

me and husband argued in front of our daughter

My daughter is now 3.5 years old and me and my husband got on each others nerves today was just a stressful day as we’ve got 3 kids under 5 so it’s full on plus with the newborn it’s intense. So we argued a few times today and it all started quite petty about cleaning. My husband basically was mopping the kitchen floor and told me that it’s not his job anyway he’s just helping me out. I’m exclusively breast feeding and have been through some hard times recently so I just ended up boiling over like a kettle. Feel so awful that we argued in front of our daughter as she kept telling her daddy to stop talking mean and to say sorry because he’s being naughty to mummy I feel so terrible like I’m an awful mum now 😢 just want some encouraging words from anyone. I feel so bad