MIL forced a kiss on my toddler

Our 1.5 year old is selectively affectionate (clearly with those he knows well) so when we say goodbye I often say to him “say bye bye” and I let him decide how he’d like too, often I suggest a hi-5 if he doesn’t do anything. But yesterday, my MIL was round and when she said bye he forced a kiss and he was literally squirming away from her so it was extremely clear he didn’t want too, and I don’t want to raise him to think he has to be affectionate with people he doesn’t feel comfortable with (my MIL makes minimal effort).

Anyone having the same issue? Or have any suggestions for me?

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a bit too often this situation happens with us, she blows kisses and things but doesnt like showing affection really such as hugs and kisses to those who barely make effort and half the time she turns up unannounced aswell but i do tend to try and avoid her as much as possible due to experiences ive had the past 15 months my daughters been born, and itll be the same with our second too, i dont want to force them into anything especially that they dont like she tends to scream when shes around anyway, its just horrible because they dont seem to care about what we say and they act asif the childs actually theirs, i dont seem to be able to say anything as im scared of her myself which isnt ideal🤦‍♀️

Next time you say bye don’t give her the opportunity. Hold your toddler and if she approaches and he doesn’t want a kiss just walk away.

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