OH too rough with newborn?

I feel like my other half is *ever so slightly* too rough with our 4-week-old.

I **know** I'm overly cautious, but I feel like he's the complete opposite. He doesn't always support her neck when he picks her up, holds her bottle almost straight down so she's gulping, passes her over one-handed (literally by one hand, not even his arm), towel-dries her like she's a soggy Labrador, and tugs on her legs when he's getting her into the baby carrier. The list goes on.

I know, without a doubt, he'd never intentionally hurt her. I'm trying so hard not to be a helicopter parent because I don't want to knock his confidence or make him feel like he can't do anything right. But I get genuinely anxious at the thought of leaving her with him because he's just not as gentle or careful as I am.

I'm not saying my way is the only right way. I probably *am* too careful. I just don't know how to bring it up without sounding critical. She's his baby too, and I don't want him to feel like I'm gatekeeping.

But also... mate, please stop handling the baby like she's a takeaway coffee. 😅

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Does this bother anyone else

I live with my parents and my mom always takes my baby and is always holding doing everything with him when I want to hold him she acts like he's her kid

Tough Time

I love my husband, and he’s an amazing father. Now that I’ve become a SAHM, he’s the one taking on a ton of pressure and providing for our family. I get all of that and I’m so grateful to him, so why do I feel cranky with him all the time?

When he’s got the baby, I feel like he’s doing it all wrong. Like he’s being stubborn and not listening to my advice. He always thinks the baby is crying from gas, which isn’t always the case, but burps him anyways. He doesn’t want to listen to me, even though caring for the baby is my full time job.

When he’s with me, it’s like he doesn’t know what he’s doing either, which has never been the case before the baby. He doesn’t say the right things, or check in on how I’m doing postpartum.

Does this feeling pass? Am I a jerk?

What's a Wife's job?.

I'm looking for some honest perspective from other women because I'm feeling really confused and hurt after a conversation with my husband today.
For years, I've tried to be the supportive partner. I've rearranged my work schedule so he wouldn't have to miss work, worked late nights and weekends to make up my hours, handled last-minute changes, and tried to make life easier for our family. I work full time from home while also caring for our kids, but because I work from home, he feels my job isn't as demanding and says he doesn't understand how I can be overwhelmed.
Today, I calmly told him that I've been feeling unappreciated. I wasn't blaming him or attacking him—I was simply trying to share how I feel. Instead, the conversation turned into him saying that I don't do what a wife is supposed to do.
When I asked him what he meant, his example was that he had to do the dishes today and that he accepted doing "a wife's job." The thing is, I worked a 12-hour day today while caring for the kids, and he has today plus the next two days off. I didn't realize I was expected to do the dishes during my lunch break just to be considered a good wife.
I'm honestly questioning myself. Is this a normal expectation? Am I missing something? How would you respond if your spouse told you that doing the dishes is "a wife's job," despite everything else you contribute to your family?
I'd really appreciate hearing from women who have been through something similar or can offer an outside perspective because right now, I'm feeling hurt, unseen, and wondering if my expectations of partnership are unrealistic.

am i being over dramatic

so my son just turned three months and my husband just told me tonight that he volunteered me for a job with out even talking to me… i told him that it was so so important to me that for the first year to stay home with our baby bc i don’t want to miss out on the firsts our son is our first baby and ill never get the first baby firsts back… that will destroy me so much my son is my whole world and i couldn’t imagine not being there for such important things… but he says im throwing him trying to help in his face when i was just simply expressing how i felt about the situation… am i being dramatic or is it very valid for me to be frustrated with feeling not heard and blind-sided also we don’t have very many friends in the area my best friend just moved bc her husband is pcsing and we will be too shortly… we do not want him in daycare bc just our city has had way to many reports of child neglect child abuse or something happening to someone child while in the care of a daycare provider… we both aren’t from this state so family is also out of the question and my son is such a mommas boy that he refuses almost everyone but my best friend

Are all 3 year olds like this?

My 3 year old is horrible to be around at the moment. Everything that comes out of her mouth is a whine. Just doing some colouring this morning - she asks me to write her name and its too big, then its too small, then its not the right colour and we have a meltdown. But its ALL DAY. Then even though she's fully toilet trained and goes to the toilet perfectly in public, at home she will go to the toilet where ever she pleases. Multiple times a day I'm cleaning up wee and poo from carpets and furniture. Shes constantly ignoring me, crying, shouting demands. Its just endless. We take toys away from her, put her in time out, etc. nothing seems to work, but she ls an angel at nursery. I love her but I dread the days she isnt at nursery. It feels unbearable. How long does this go on for? I'm tied to a 2 month old all day and night and my husband is working 12 hour days (from home so he hears it all) and we're just miserable. Sorry for the rant, just looking for any kind of support at this point.

Almost 10 months and hates purées

Anyone else have a little one that hates purées now? She will eat fruity stuff like applesauce but some days I don’t don’t cook for her separate she is denying the organic beef / chicken brands I get and the veggie pouches, it’s my quick go to 😩