Baby only settling when on me, not when laying down

My baby is only 6 days old, so i know there isn't really going to be a routine yet, but our little girl doesnt seem to be settling when putting her down. Only once has she settled down and slept for over an hour in the next to me crib during the day and i had a nap in the bed at the same time. Otherwise during day she will go in a moses basket.
She will settle on my chest but as soon as we go to put her down flat, in a moses basket/next to me crib, she doesnt settle or she just becomes awake.
She is a very content baby, its just trying to get into a routine if settling her, as atm she def doesnt sleep alot, like other babies would. Our first baby pretty much from day one would feed and then sleep for 2 to 3 hours, wake up for another feed and same again.
Also my partner brought one if those cushions babies can lay in that are tilted up at the head of the cushion and they are supposed to help with reflux/gas. I dont mind her being in this during the day for short bursts, but when he has been up in the night with her, he has put her in this cushion after a feed or to settle and she goes to sleep for an hour or so. She looks super comfy in it, but i see online that they need to be completely flat to sleep and something like this cushion can cause SIDs or risks.
I have said i dont like her being in it during the night, but he sees it as though well it really settles her and if she sleeps, she sleeps. He is not thinking of the risks.

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